My Grandma had a stillborn son, even though it wasn't talked about in 'those days' and even though she never got to meet him (stupid hospital!) she still introduced my Dad to people as ''my eldest and second-born'', I'm so proud of her for that.
I just wanted to say that I think that is so beautiful. Very eloquent.

Teni, I can't really offer you any advice as I've not been in your shoes. But I'm absolutely STOKED for you and ScottyDuck on getting your BFP, after all the pain you've both been through and all the pain that is still to come, as I know Ianto's loss will never be easy on you. I can't tell you how to answer those awkward questions or how to deal with nosy strangers, but know that every single one of us here are holding your hand through this and sending you all the positive vibes we can Best of luck hun, you deserve it!!