How do YOU feel about having a baby???? I know in an ideal world having your partners support would be fantastic, but sometimes what we want and what they want are two very different things Most of the the time anyway.
It's hard sometimes for the guy to see the beauty of the situation and sometimes even for the woman.
Some guys still dont understand it until they hold there little creation.
This is truly the biggest choice you'll make in your life. So take your time and weigh up the pro's and con's.
Please just remember that even if it's not what he wants, that if it IS what your heart wants thats what matters. This is the time in your life where you have alot of soul searching to do, dont be scared of it. I mean of course you have to take his needs into consideration but in this matter, its your baby, this baby has popped into your life for a reason. If you really have to end up doing it alone, yes its a scary thought but not a bad thing.
This is a situation I was never in but before I told my DP I thought I may have ended up in this situation so I made a packed with myself and my unborn baby that no matter what, this is the hand I was dealt and I was going to take it in my stride.
But also give him time, try your harest to show him the good that will come of it. If you are finding it hard to see the good, this forum has lots of stories that will prove it. Also he needs to know and believe that his life wont END because he is a daddy. This is a big fear for boys to rise above.
I was 18yrs and come from a traditional Europian family So you can just imagine. But Annabelle changed my life for the better and opened my eyes to what life was really about.
Im not trying to tell you how to make your chioce but I am telling you to look at it with differnt eyes for a moment. Excited eyes, excited at the gift you have been given.
Im also saying all this as when I fell pregnant.........I just thought, "ok so im having a baby."
I never realised what happens when you have a baby, all the good I mean.
I was always told how hard it was, finances, birth etc etc. But what know one ever told me was that it was all worth it
Again please in the end do whats right for YOU.
Im just trying to get you out of the scared eyes and put you into the happy eyes
Good luck and please keep us updated!
Many of us from this forum have met and I for one am willing to travel, Im only an hr or so away. So making friends and support group is the easy part
Last edited by Kazmar; July 2nd, 2008 at 11:38 AM.
Most of the the time anyway.
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