Hi Pam, thanks for your input. That is the predicament really and I realise that if she has to have a c/s this time round then it might be hard for her as she will no doubt still be recovering. She is due mid June and I am due mid August.

I guess I can only ask her, I know she would be there for me but as you say things may change closer to the time. I have decided I will have my mum with me (thats if she wants to be) havent really gone into deep discussion about it yet with her; and of course my husband but no there isnt really any other people that I would consider.

I do have another friend - L that has just had her 2nd daughter last week, will keep her mind possibly as a backup if R cant at last minute. L's births have been by c/s would prefer to have R as she had her 1st vaginally but at the end of the day I guess it doesnt matter does it. I will be out of it probably anyways hahaha

I will just have to keep my thinking cap on - I will eventually think of something no doubt!