Hi TM -

We are only planning to have one for a variety of reasons, one of them being our ages. I will be 41 when I deliver.

Also, I have had a heartbreaking road getting here with 5 miscarriages over 2 years because of blood clotting issues (found out after my last loss) and am high risk. I don't think I have the strength to go through this again.

But really, DH and I only ever wanted one child, and not just b/c we met later in life in our early 30s.

When we announced our news to my FIL just before Xmas, he told DH that he hoped it was the first of many. My DH was like - are you crazy? Jules is going to be 41 when we have this baby. That's it for us. And FIL was going on and saying our baby needs siblings, yadda yadda.

Well, I HATED my brother growing up and still feel the same way, so I think that argument is not necessarily a good one - at least in my case. Also my FIL cannot stand any of his siblings so I don't know what he is going on about!

TM - I feel very strongly about our decision, but people are people and they like to share their opinions and many seem to think they know better than you what's appropriate in YOUR life. What matters most is what DH and I feel is right for our own family! Same goes for you. I wish people would keep those unsolicited opinions to themselves.

If you are fine with just one, that is your choice. You also have the right to change you mind someday if that's what is right for your family!