Good idea for a new thread BG. You already know my views/feelings I don't know the answer - I also feel it is our responsibility and I'm really uncomfortable with expecting people to give us stuff but I know it makes people happy and to feel that they are a part of what is happening.......

I think you just keep buying what you want and what 'goes' - especially if you find it on special! - and then if people want to give you things they will. Close friends/family should have some idea of what you already have and might still need I guess......