it really is hard Kaz!!

and as i mentioned in the other thread, to me a baby shower is more about having a chance to relax and enjoy the company of people who care about me and my kidlet than an exchange of gifts. traditionally, i believe a baby shower was supposed to be about sharing "wisdom" with the mother to be, and it evolved into the way it is now over time.... it's about having one last chance to catch up with people before life takes over with a new bub - it's going to be near impossible for me to catch up with people from further afield when baby arrives - so the plan is for me to travel to them before baby arrives and to celebrate early. for local people - well, they're people who know of our struggle with infertility and who want to celebrate our success. it will just be a quiet lunch at mum's place where i'm SURE i'll get lots of outdated advice (most of them have kids in their teens!) - and i'll just smile and pretend to take it all in! they can mock my intentions (BF, modern cloth, gentle parenting etc) as being idealistic, but they aren't me, this isn't their baby...