My DH told everyone. I only did in response to questioning or prying etc. I wasn't ashamed or embarrassed, I think it's good for people to know how many of us struggle. BUt i didn't always want to be talking about it. I wanted to just be pregnant or just have a newborn without going in to details of the conception.

Most people were genuinely interested and kind. You might be pleasantly surprised at how many people care and are just that little bit extra happy for you.