For me personally, knowing gender with this bub hasnt helped me bond with her, mainly because I worry a little that she is a 'he' and it will shock me at birth (wouldnt be disappointed with another boy but would just be weird calling bub her or by name and then finding out bub is a boy. Plus we havent told our family or friends gender so I dont call this bub she or her name because I dont want to slip up in front of someone and give the surprise away (especially now we're so close). And lastly as someone else has said with DS keeping me so busy I dont have much time for all the belly rubs and belly chats. Saying that I dont regret finding out gender because I wanted to find out for practcal reasons (nursery decoration etc).