Dr didnt even say congrats hrmmm

[squidipa]

dr didn't even say congrats to us when she did the test. Nor did she say i need to take any kind of vitamins or anything just said come back in a week after blood results come back.

i hate it how ppl think that just cause its baby number 5 you seem to care less or seem to be so educated on it you dont need a professional to tell you information. I like being told things even if i know it. She took no weight didnt have a feel or nothing strange my old dr used to do all that very strange really upset my hubbie and me too.

[Cassius2]

that really sucks babe. i am so with you on that one. some ppl i guess just dont realise how precious it is to find out your pregnant, no matter how many times you have been there before. i also just dont like abrupt business like care. but maybe that's just me...

[FabFiona]

Perhaps a different view, but I don't have a problem with a doctor not saying congrats. I went with a girlfriend to the doctor and the pregnancy was unwanted. The congratulations from the doctor sent her into hysterics... I guess by them saying congratulations that's them 'judging' your pregnancy, so to speak....

I'll stop rambling now.

As for not mentioning vitamins... Well for that they should be bollocked.

[boobaloo]

that's no good for you, i'm sorry you felt let down.
on a lighter note, when i found out i was pregnant in hospital, it was very unexpected, and it was this poor young male dr's first time ever telling anyone they were expecting, i said 'oh f*ck', and vomited... poor bugger.

[Janine1511]

I feel for you!!!!!

When I went to the Dr to confirm if I was pregnant, he was an absolute jerk. First he asked me what made me think I was PG... I told him I did a test and it was positive so I thought i'd better come in... he then responded "well if you've done a test and it's positive then there's not much more I can tell you". I pee'd in the cup and they tested it and he says "yep your pregnant" and asked me if it was planned. I said no it was very unexpected and he had the nerve to turn around and say to me "Oh well, most first pregnancies end in miscarriage anyway" as if he was trying to make me feel better!!!!! It was a surprise but i certainly didn't "not want" the baby... then he sent me on my merry way without any advice, referrals or indication as to what I was supposed to do from there. I'm still a tad bitter about it lol.

[expat]

I had the same thing today.

Took blood, took my height....and that's it. My appointment was 11am and I was finally seen at 12:05...

I eventually got out of there after almost 2 hours and after beeing bluntly told that I was not being given an ultrasound until I am 18 weeks regardless of whether I want a NT test. I was bluntly told I would have to pay for it myself if I want an NT test as I'm only 31 and the risk is 1 in 700.

Many pro's in this field have to work on their EQ

[squidipa]

I guess by them saying congratulations that's them 'judging' your pregnancy, so to speak....

you made a very good point

boobaloo lol
eeekkk janie so sorry to hear that.

oh gosh expat

i now feel bad for complaining

[*TripleJ*]

expat that really sucks even i had an NT test and im only 21 any one can be at risk no matter how old u are even if ur 20 and fully healthy u could have a bub with an abnormality just as u could be 45 and have a fully healthy baby i would have slapped my doc if he said that

[satya]

I had the same thing today.

Took blood, took my height....and that's it. My appointment was 11am and I was finally seen at 12:05...

I eventually got out of there after almost 2 hours and after beeing bluntly told that I was not being given an ultrasound until I am 18 weeks regardless of whether I want a NT test. I was bluntly told I would have to pay for it myself if I want an NT test as I'm only 31 and the risk is 1 in 700.

Many pro's in this field have to work on their EQ

It's normal to pay for a NT test. I paid for mine & I was 41 at the time. You don't get them free just because you are over 35.

[satya]

squidpa - It could be that the doc has had some bad experiences with congratulating people with unwanted pregnancies. I would also say that most doctors wouldn't advise a woman who already had 4 kids to take vitamins.... it's a bit obvious isn't it?

[squidipa]

squidpa - It could be that the doc has had some bad experiences with congratulating people with unwanted pregnancies. I would also say that most doctors wouldn't advise a woman who already had 4 kids to take vitamins.... it's a bit obvious isn't it?

yeah good point but what if your a forget full person lol its also good to be informed of new information with medical research and all like as an example i got one injection before and after my daughter was born as i have a neg blood group but since all that time its now changed a little.

[~CrazyMumOf3~]

i feel for you but think its not a Dr's place to congratulate as they really dont know how the reaction of a positive result will be taken.

In saying that all 3 of my pregnancies ive never been congratulated by the Dr who confirmed it. My first one went into talking about what i need to do if i dont choose to keep it (i was only 18). Although it was unplanned that thought never crossed my mind and i got 'the look' from the dr when i said i wouldnt be going down that road.

I was never informed about any kind of vitamins all 3 times. just told when to come back for next visit.

[mrsmac]

I have never been told about vitamins etc with any pregnancy and TBH after the 1st baby i would have been insulted if he had started telling me how to look after myself when pg. Considering that your youngest child is not years older than this new bub will be he probably felt he would be insulting you by giving you pg advice.

[squidipa]

very interesting i must say i have been put in my box so to speak lol i had a really great dr once lol and he always was informative and un rushed with me i think he set the bar high

[Sweet Bliss]

When I went to the Doctor's with DS I couldn't get in to my normal GP, so I saw another one. I was about 6 weeks by then and I really just went because I knew I needed to organise blood tests etc, and because I had an ectopic pg when I was quite young, so I have always been told to go to the Dr's as soon as I may suspect that I am pg so that they can check on this (hormone levels etc). She was really quite rude and negative and quite sour, and told me "Well.....I won't be saying congratulations". I went in so excited and positive because it was 4 years since our daughter was born, and this next baby was very much planned and so, sowanted (and she knew that because that was the first thing she asked), and went out feeling confused and a bit down.
I booked in to my normal GP for a couple of weeks later, and she was SO, SO happy for me and the first thing she said was Congratulations! But then I am very very blessed to have her as my GP, she is amazing and she delivered my son.

[squidipa]

what a wonderful out come sweet bliss

[Nelle]

I do know what you mean Squidipa, in that it's really great to have a doctor who chats and has great people skills and seems really concerned about you, and then you see another who you don't connect with as much. But hey - congratulations!

[mbear]

Squidipa i totally know what you mean....ive just had baby #4 and i really felt it was like 'its your 4th baby, you should know what to do by now...'. Whilst yes, i do have an armful of knowledge in this brain of mine...but it is nice to be reminded of what you should be doing....
I remember when i was pushing my #3 baby out, i was so exhausted, i knew i wasnt pushing right, baby was getting distressed, the midwife yelled inbetween my legs and said 'this is your third baby....what are you doing !!!!!!'. I felt like a school kid getting in trouble, it was awful. Yes, it was my third labour, but doesnt mean i know how to push a baby out with no gentle reminders or prompts....

i totally get what your saying hon.....for me....BTDT.