I definitely wanted to find out, I wanted time to prepare myself and I wanted the birth to be all about joy. I didn't want it tinged witheven the slightest disappointment regarding gender. I knew we would love any baby and figured if we already knew, then gender would not be an issue by the time bub arrived.

Someone else made a good point, about looking at baby gear when you are pregnant. I think if you have a wish for one gender more than another, it is easy to get drawn in to all the 'stuff' out there and picture your baby a certain way (in my case, in pretty pink dresses). If you already know that 's not the reality it gives you time to adjust.

Thanks ladies, it's actually hubby, not me. I know how desperately he would love a boy and we are undecided as to whether we will have a third child so I'd love him to get his boy. Females run in his family quite heavily (he is the youngest after 6 girls, with three living sisters and he has 4 aunties, no uncles on either side).

I am concerned if we find out at the scan, he will show litte interest in the rest of the pregnancy whereas if we wait, I know he will fall in love with the baby regardless of sex. I really think we're having another girl (which I'm excited about, DD will love a sister!)
This, I don't know about. I understand your concern and I would be worried that if you are right & his interest in the pregnancy drops off, you are going to suffer for it (coming from someone who had an uninterested partner a couple of itmes - it hurts.) If it were for yourself, I would say find out. For him, I am not so sure.