I have many a day where all i have eaten was chocolate and tea! Honestly -because i have been too lazy to make something decent. And DH is used to the dry spell now lol....
Everything you have explained i did myself with my first - postnatally and now with my second!
Dont feel bad - your worries are al in good intentions and that is what makes you a wonderful mother to be.
You need to relax and know you are doing a fantastic job - try to unwind with a warm bath, warm cup of chocolate and some essential oils before bed.
And i am sure DH will understand... if you see pink down there (i had pink D/c after DTD the other day... ) just show DH and it will probably put him off sex anyhow lol... (worked with my DH ).
Aw hun, you are doing a brilliant job and you know what, the fact that you care about all these things make you a good mummy already. These babies are sooo resilient and thrive on the most terrible diets. I hav ebeen craving coffee every day of this pregnancy and have to say I have had one a day since I fell pregnant. I also eat maccas whenever the craving hits (once aweek on average!) and there are many times that the house is a mess because I simply need a nap. Don't beat yourself up hun - you are growing a new life and that in itself is a full-time job IMO.
I'd say what your'e feeling is totally normal!! I think we all worry about what we're doing to our unborn bub!! Just remember that its an emotional time too, and it's normal to have ups and downs. Look what your body is going through, BIG changes! It can't not effect you emotionally!!
As for DH, at least he's not alone, he could come on BB and meet ALOT of other partners who are having a dry spell!!!!!
Just take it easy.
I have two daughters with allergies, one slight, one severe and I wanted SO much to do everything different this pregnancy, but it's just not working out that way (I am avoiding allergens, but I wanted to be soooo omuch more healthy). I have moments when Im annoyed at myself, but like someone said to me recently, the worry and all that goes with it is worse for bubs than the diet I have (which like you is pretty good). So I have decided that when I have days and dont eat ANYTHIGN but bread, that is ok!!!
take care xo
Thanks Ladies..
Its great to know that im not the only one who goes through thinks like this.
I know that tomorrow I will feel better and I do know that I am doing the best job that I can.
Thanks again - makes me feel a LOT better!!
Love
Kate
Meh- dont worry about the food thing. As a PP said bubs are resilient little things and the placenta filters away all the bad stuff (well, not all the bad stuff, like I wouldnt recommend drinking alcohol lol)
I eat maccas sometimes and have 1-2 coffees a day. I eat chocolate. Think about how many pregnant women would have eaten the worst things and their babies are fine.
As long as we make sure everything is prepared properly and cooked through then why the hell cant we eat a few treats!
As for the house....dont worry about it, it will get clean eventually. You need to rest and that is more important.
About your DH...I have been the same with my DH and I feel like a failure too. We have sat down and talked about it and he says he understands but I know what you mean I still have a niggle of doubt about it. Lucky we have fantastic DHs isnt it?
I think your doing a great job eating fruit is great I have 4 children and i also am a coffee drinker I did in my pregnancy try to cut back down to 2 cups a day at max. Altho in previous pregnancies never cut back and when stressed with baby 3 i would drink up to 9 cups of coffee a day and he turned out just perfect. All i can suggest is try not to drink coffee before bed as babies learn there sleeping patterns in the womb. Dont feel guilty about having an ice coffee. I wouldnt! Its much better than having alcohol or drugs. Its natural too.
Women in the African nations have healthy babies even tho the mothers are starving this is because the baby will take what it needs from you when it needs it. So while you may feel flat your baby will be more than fine. Drs keep telling me this in previous pregnancies. Obviously eat well when you can but dont feel bad when you miss out on vegies just eat it when ya can pregnancy i hard enough let alone being concerned with everything that touches our lips or reaches our hips.
pregnancy takes a lot outa ya dont be upset or feel like a failure with the clothes or messy house You need your rest too. As long as its not filth your fine and it sounds like its clean mess. I also had and still have a pile of washing on my couch its like i get through it and it builds again. But washing is the last of my concerns. As for hubbie sit down and tell him how your feeling good luck My 2 week old awake now so gotta scoot good luck again.
Aww, if you were a failure then so would every other pregnant woman! Keep doing what you are doing, you are doing a perfect job.
You can have coffee each day (just not bucket loads!) without any problems, I had a cup a day with DS2 and he is just fine.
From all you previous posts I have read I know you are going to be a very caring and doting mum, you already are! It sounds like your DH is 100% behind you too, you sound like a great team!
Sky & Trish,
Thanks for your caring words and advice. I am starting to feel less down on myself so thats a good thing!
Thats why I LOVE this forum so very much- eveyones know exactly what u are going through as they have been there themselves. I just hope I can be as of much help to others as they are to me!
Thanks again
Kate
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think we all have days like this bubs and DH know you are doing your best and I am sure they both love you very much 
I also eat maccas whenever the craving hits (once aweek on average!) and there are many times that the house is a mess because I simply need a nap. Don't beat yourself up hun - you are growing a new life and that in itself is a full-time job IMO. 
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