Kafer Girl - you are so not a failure. Of all the things that are getting you through the day, an Iced Coffee is the worst you can do??? Seriously, it would be great if we could all adhere to the long list of dos & don'ts that are published for pg girls to follow, but the problem with these "rules/guidelines/recommendations" is that they don't take into account what you actually feel like when you're pregnant, and how some days you just gotta do what is going to get you through.
As for your DH, well, as you said, he's fine & very understanding, so that's a great start. There are plenty of other, non-sexual ways to show him how much he means to you, just being kind & interested in his day is a good, and relatively easy thing to. My DF spent most of the time just wanting to look after me, and that worked for us, cos it gave him something "important" to do.
And pffft to the house - you've got piles of clean clothes? Well great - they're clean, and they'll be that way whether they're in the washing basket or in the cupboard. And whilst it's nice to live in a clean tidy house (okay, really nice), at the end of the day it's a small thing compared to m/s & tiredness, and there's a really good reason why you have the m/s & tiredness, so I would say look after this reason first, worry about the house when you can.
Thanks Squidipa & Janno
All you ladies have no idea how much your kind words and advice mean to me! Not just when I am feeling low - but all the time when I come on here.
My DH is AWESOME! He just wants me to relax and look after myself and our bub! He just makes sure that I am comfy and well - I know that he misses the intamacy but we snuggle on the couch and mae sure that we tell each other "I Love You" eveyday so we know where we stand - I just feel terrible that im not in the mood for sex - for him more than me.
Thanks again eveyone who has taken time out of your days to reply!
Love to all
Kate
i could have written this myself- but i am not down on myself- i just accept it1
At the moment i am sitting on the couch with crap piled high around me, and i just had a chocolate big M- i usually have one a day!!!
i will probably sleep for a couple of hours today- cause i can and the crap will still be around me when i wake up!
You are pg for such a short time in your life- so just go with it! Can you get someone to come in a clean once a week or fortnite- just to do the bathrooms, floors etc. I may cost like 50 bucks but if it makes you feel better- got for it!
Otherwise just do a little each day- like one day clean the toilet, the next clean the sinks!
The baby will take from you what it needs, and it is your body that misses out so relax about the eating. You will crave what your bubba needs, so if you are craving coffee, then that is what your bubba needs at the moment. If you are worried about the coffee, get some decaf coffee and make it yourself. Gets some decaf coffee from somewhere like Nutshack (its really yummy decaf), make it up in the espresso machine or a plunger, and let it cool and put it in the fridge in a glass bottle. Then just add it to milk, chuck in some ice-cream and sugar and blend! Yummo!!
You can also get iced coffees from most cofffee stores using decaf instead of full strenght!
Hun, I just wanted to add my words of support from "the other side". Seriously, when I was pregnant I could have written your post (except replace "iced coffee" with "chocolate and ice cream"). I TOTALLY understand how you feel, and when I look back on it now I know that my feelings were valid and real, but that "this phase too shall pass". Pregnancy felt like it would go on forever for me- I was sick throughout my whole pg- and I hated feeling like I was constantly failing at getting what I wanted to done. Very frustrating. But it will end, and you will have your baby and its wonderful! Sure, it brings its own sets of challenges and emotional craziness, but, personally, I think its far, far superiour to pregnancy- take hope!!
Can I just add something to make you laugh- I really like my house to be clean and tidy and I just couldn't do it when I was pregnant because I felt so sick. One day my husband sat down on the entertainment unit and when he got up I saw that where he had sat there was no longer any dust. So I promptly ordered him to sit down again and slide over the whole entertainment unit.... so, just when you feel bad about things, remember: I used my husband's bum as a duster....
Kafer girl - honey you are not a failure you are pregnant and tired. ITs ok for these things and for you to feel like this. If you cant eat veges can you get some V8 juice from the supermarket, I couldnt eat veges much either and my OB was happy for me to have this juice, I drank it twice a day in the end and ate Low GI food to help best with my nutrition and baby's needs in my first pregnancy. 2nd pregnancy wasnt so focused on it and I was still ok, so please dont beat yourself up about it honey. Dont worry about the clothes. Pfft re the clothes, I have a newborn and we have clothes everywhere, and toys everywhere from our nearly 2 year old. The secret is, to do a 10min clean up before your DH/Partner gets home! thats what I do and he is happy with it! I actually finished work at 24 weeks cause I was so exhausted and I did everything around the house until Julia was born. Big mistake actually to do it, I couldnt cope very well and either did DH as he was used to me doing everything and expected things when its different when you have a newborn and child. I say now is the time to work out what chores are going to be done by who when the baby is born and start sharing the chores now then there will be less arguments and expectation when your baby is born and you come home.
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, great dusting technique.
- it must be the day to feel emotional and crap - I can totally relate - hope you feel better tomorrow 
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