I feel so bitter and angry!

[~Phoenix~]

Oh Pish just came across this . You had been looking forward to you scan so much and were so excited, I'm so sorry that DH ruined that experience for you.

If you really do want to find out, can you sneak a look next time your at the OB?

I agree with the other posters, especially about the epi - it's your body, your the one that has to get the baby out. I would be having a quiet word with your Ob & widwives and let them know you do want the option of choice if YOU decide you do want an epi or any other form of pain relief you want at the time.

As my Ex-SIL once described childbirth.....it's like sh*tting a watermelon, I'd ask DH if he would like to do that without painkillers!!!

Back again as I just read your latest post....

I'm sure you two will sort it all out soon but still big I'm sure there isn't anyone who's posted here who hasn't wanted to grab their DH, DF, DP, DB by the shoulders and shake some sense into them at some stage Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and the excitement of meeting your new bub, whether you decide to find out or wait.

[Elocin]

I hope everything worked out Pishy

Thinking of you x

[Stevie]

oh sweet, i am in your boat.
My DH is a lovely man, but he can be so pig headed and stubborn. it doesnt help that i am stubborn also lol.
Dh sometimes makes choices and decisions without taking my feelings into consideration which is very frustrating and hurtful, this is something we are working on, well i am at least
Dh was all "no drugs" as well but i made itclear that i wasnt keen n drugs but if i needed theem i would have them, he didnt mind gas but nothing else.Turns out he wasnt there for the birth anyway and i ony used gas,
as far as the sex thing, this time we both wanted to find out which was good, like you our next baby will most likely be the last baby we have so id like to keep it a surprise just so i know what its like, but he's mde it very clear that we are finding out. i have plenty of time to work on him but i doubt ill change his mind.
Your hubby does sound supportive, i know as he sounds just like mine lol.
Good luck sweet.
i hope it all works out without too many tears xxx

[Saffi]

Hi Tiff

You don't have to answer this, but do you know the reasons why DH doesn't want you to have pain relief during labour? Maybe this is something that can be addressed by the Drs to give him the facts rather than the hype that he may have been told. The science may convince him that there are circumstances when it is recommended. Still, it should be your choice.