i want to know but i dont

[Mumma T]

[indie24]

[Rach75]

when Ii was pregnant with Jack I needed to know it was hard to explain why part of me wanted another girl but another part of me was too scared that she would replace Katy...so I found out but Jase left the room..so it was only me who knew ...

I think in your case I would find out then the nursery would be baby ?? and not Jacks room, I still find myself looking at my Jacks bedroom we had picked the colors etc and were due to start painting when our Katy was stillborn, even the pram I bought while pregnant with her even though both boys have used it it is still Katy's pram and I am having trouble gaining courage to sell as its Katy's if that makes sense...

maybe finding out would be away for you all to move forward ((GBH)) in whatever your decision may be

[beansbeans!]

I honestly dont know what I would do in your shoes, but whatver decision you come to I am sure will be the right one.