i want to know but i dont

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

hun, i can't even begin to imagine.
I guess all you can do is what feels right at the time, knowing that we are all here to support and love you no matter what.

[Razzberry]

I don't know what to say Skye, I haven't been in your shoes so I don't know what I would do. I "think" i would need to find out to process and digest whatever I was told. xxx

[Kazzo]

Oh hun, I think your idea of having a look is nice, maybe then like tashy said get the sonographer to write it down in a card and then when you are absolutely ready, maybe at home in the nursery you can open it and then announce that the room will be for........

Hugs for your DD1 too, she sounds like such a beautiful thinker.

[My Three Sons]

Oh hun, I think your idea of having a look is nice, maybe then like tashy said get the sonographer to write it down in a card and then when you are absolutely ready, maybe at home in the nursery you can open it and then announce that the room will be for........

Hugs for your DD1 too, she sounds like such a beautiful thinker.

I think this is a gorgeous idea. This way you are able to process the information yourself, without feeling watch and judged by your reaction. I know when i found out DS3 was a boy, i was feeling very aware of everyone watching my reaction- knowing that i desperately wanted a girl. It sounds nice to be able to have a moment for yourself, maybe with DF to just process your own thoughts about little bear cub and it is now his or her room.

[Lily Dust]

Honey, I think either way it will be so hard, confusing and difficult for you guys. If its a girl then its not what you 'hoped' for, if its a boy, he isnt Jack iykwim I agree with the writting it down and reading it when you are ready, when you can be out of view of everyone else and their judgements. Whatever the result, sweetpea, we are here for you. Just wish I could come hold your hand

It musr be very confusing for Miss C, its confusing enough for an adult to process

ETA: Like others said by being able to name your Bear Cub it might help DD1 to understand.

[buffy1]

Hi lovely Skye - so sorry you're feeling conflicted about finding out. I can't begin to understand what it must be like, but just wanted to offer love and support for whatever choice you make. The ideas of guessing during the ultrasound or asking the tech to write it down for you so you can think on sound like they might be good options.

Sending massive hugs.

[Ginger]

aww Skye it's so hard. sorry you have to go through this
fwiw, i would probably find out.