Thanks girls, i was thinking about asking the person who does the scan to just put the thinggy over its bits and letting me guess what it is, that way im not being told per say, im finding out for myself.
Its so hard with a child who's old enough to know, but not old enough to understand. When Jack died we did the usuals and told her he was an angel and was in heaven. but then we confuse her by tellling her we're going to visit jack when we go to the cemetery because now she thinks that the cemetery is heaven, and obviously we come home from the cemetery, so why cant jack come home too? IYKWIM? i know as she gets older the concept will become clearer to her, its just hard atm.

Everyone still associates the nursery with Jack, whenever i say the nursery or the babies room, DF and DD1 always say Jacks room?? i need it to start belonging to this baby, and everything thats in it that we bought new when i was pregnant with Jack