For so many reasons you listed is why I had to find out the sex of each of our babies! Do it if you need to.. I always said to people that its just as much of a surprise to hear the sonographer tell you the sex as it is for who ever delivers your baby!!! And to be honest, all your going to really want to care about that day is that bubs is here and alive and well!!! So i say go for it and prepare your self early for whatever comes so that on that beautiful magical day you can just be happy that bubs is here!!! xoxxox

I like tashybabes idea of getting them to write it down for you- then its not all decided on that day (well the sex of the baby is decided lol but not you knowing that day and that day only)... you can take your time and decide later on and it can be something you discover privately and make a special moment.

I got tears in my eyes reading what your DD said... that would be so hard!!!! I think even for her sake (and for yours so you can explain it to her with more clarity) that you do need to find out so that if A) you are having a boy she can learn its not Jack and know your new baby by his name and B) if your having a girl so she can have time to be really ok thats its a girl and not Jack!

I def think go with Tashy's advice.. get them to writ eit down and then you can know that its there if you want to know xoxoxo