Inappropriate pregnancy announcement reactions

[Epacris]

Let me just say that yes, I am a pregnant, hormonal, emotional woman but I am sure that this rant would be completely, totally and utterly justified by any objective measure!

If one more person, j.u.s.t. o.n.e. m.o.r.e. p.e.r.s.o.n. says “Was it planned?” I’m going to, I swear I’m going to say this, “Well that’s a very personal question, so tell me, when did you last have sex and what sort of contraception did you use?” and then I’m going to deck them and then I’m going to S.C.R.E.A.M! Just for good measure.

WTF is wrong with the stock standard “Congratulations!”, huh?

And for the record I variously answer that question with:
“Yes”
“No”
“Umm”
“That’s too personal and I’m not going to answer.”

[mrsmac]

I got that with Riley too!! it shiat me soooo much.

Again a big congratulations on your very welcome pregnancy!!

[Heaven]

wtf? I don't understand people asking this it is extremely rude!!!!!! And no one else's business!!!!!!!

[Junglemum]

Don't let them get to you.

[M D]

People are thoughtless. Many people have unplanned pregnacies and from the moment they find out are over the moon with happiness. I think because it implies you may love this child less that it gets us so worked up.

Unless someone specificaly asks another person 'whats your opion' with regards to xyz then people should just be polite.

[Joeve]

RUDE!

Yes I think you should say "no it wasn't planned my DH and I had decided years ago to never have sex again so I have no idea what happened......"

[Marlene]

I get that too...and I HATE it!!!!

[Arimeh]

Yup that was a very common reaction to this pregnancy (and still is if I tell friends who don't already know!) Umm... well yes it was planned, we had unprotected sex deliberately, he didn't accidentally fall in - and when I was ovulating and surprise surprise, I'm now pregnant.

Now - tell me about your sex life since we're swapping stories?

[ladybird11]

Why can't some people just be happy?? I wish I knew the answer...

[maz]

why cant people just be happy for others

[MrsFabuloso]

I know the feeling too. Poeple are so rude and unthoughtful.

The best answer I got was 'Really, AGAIN?? My god you two are like rabbits!!'

[lilima]

I don't even understand wy people would think that it is unplanned. My mum had my sister 6 years after me, and everyone thought she was an oopsie! In fact it took her that long to get pregnant again.

Congrats on your pregnancy.

[csab]

have to say, I dont thinkI even got a congratulations when pg with Miss V or even this one. More like, well you need to get your TV fixed, or was it planned, to even a close friend saying to my DH after him asking her whether she knew I was pg, and she came up with Ohh yes I know, I dont agree with what she is doing but she is my friend and I will support her. Not a congratulations just that reply to DH. Not even a congratulations to me.
I think people believe that if you have more than 2 kids your completely insane. I held off telling most people this time, until after my morph scan, as I didnt want the stress. Maybe i should have held off even longer like once bub arrives, as the stress has hit. lol.

Anyhow a huge congratulations hun and I hope you have a H & H pgcy. hugs

[PumpkinZulu]

I swear, because of our age especially, DF and I are going to get this...Mel, I like your answer! I think my head will explode if people ask if it was planned...TO A BLOODY T!! I agree with others, all people need to do is be happy for others.

[Miss.September]

I think you get it no matter how many kids you have or how old you are. If you haven't mentioned TTC to anyone, then it's "was it planned?". But I'm sure people wouldn't want to know that we had sex last night and that I was ovulating etc.....oh by the way, that's an example only!!!!!!!! No TTC here...yet

[Epacris]

So, if you’re too young, too old, or already have two children (or *gasp* maybe even more), or if people didn't know you were TTC (yeah, like they would anyway) people think it’s OK to ask you this.

Grrrrr..... It’s not! IT’S BLOODY RUDE!

Thank you everyone for your understanding and support.

"no it wasn't planned my DH and I had decided years ago to never have sex again so I have no idea what happened......"

And I do like this one.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

What i dont understand is why it matters whether it was planned or not. I got it all the time too and i said well no but it is very welcomed. But does it make any difference, there is still a beautiful little baby growing inside your belly that will be loved more than anything.

[Tuesday's Child]

Congratulations hun.

I was often asked this when I told people about my miscarriage. As it if mattered at that point, or as if I'd be less devastated if it hadn't been planned.