Inappropriate pregnancy announcement reactions

[Junglemum]

Don't let them get to you.

[Joeve]

RUDE!

Yes I think you should say "no it wasn't planned my DH and I had decided years ago to never have sex again so I have no idea what happened......"

[Epacris]

So, if you’re too young, too old, or already have two children (or *gasp* maybe even more), or if people didn't know you were TTC (yeah, like they would anyway) people think it’s OK to ask you this.

Grrrrr..... It’s not! IT’S BLOODY RUDE!

Thank you everyone for your understanding and support.

"no it wasn't planned my DH and I had decided years ago to never have sex again so I have no idea what happened......"

And I do like this one.

[peanutter]

I had a lot of people who said things like, "congratulations! you must be thrilled! uh, you are thrilled, right? I mean, you're happy? this is, uh, on purpose?"

or people just saying "congratulations, was it planned?"

it annoyed me, but I'm not sure I was offended ... it's not a spre spot for me, personally.

but I found the question bizzarre - I mean, I was 28, married for 7 years, with DH for 12 years, and we didn't announce until I was 22 weeks pregnant.

my response ranged from "yes" to "are you seriously expecting me to answer that?" to "what are you suggesting?" to "what will you think if this baby wasn't planned?"

but over all, I think (for the people who asked me that question) it was more of an overly politically correct atmosphere, of people worrying that they're being insensitive or drawing incorrect conclusions by assuming that all pregnancies are wanted and planned ...

but how awful for you ladies who have had really negative comments, at what should be a beautiful and exciting time of your lives!

the closest to any of that which I experienced was one very close friend who congratulated me, and then read me the riot act for not telling her immediately when I got pregnant, then got really annoyed with me for not telling her whether we were expecting a boy or a girl (and kept trying to pressure me to tell her until I gave birth) and then warned me that I "had better not become one of those women who can talk about nothing but your baby and their latest talents and their pooing and eating and rolling and all that bu!!$#!^" ... thanks, babe ...