that's a weird question to ask, i think. it is really none of their business. when i announced this baby on FB one of my friends on there (that i don't really talk to IRL) asked me if it was planned, and i was like...WTF ??? i just ignored her question and didn't answer. but yeh, i get your frustration after having been asked it so many times. i just wouldn't answer or say it's none of their business.