I was talking about this to someone yesterday, about people that think they have the right to openly cast judgement over another's life.

One person in my life who I used to be close to had the perfect life. Pretty girl, beautiful figure, 2 lovely girls, an immaculate and brand new house fitted out with furniture I can only dream of having, a husband that dotes on them all and works to support them, 3 cars and their own sucessful business. This person was younger than me. But when things went wrong in my life, this person judged me very harshly, judged the way I handled things, judged my mental state (I'd had a breakdown), and really was at me about things. They even got personally involved and contacted my counsellor to try and find things out! I had backed off from this person, and didn't invite any meddling in my life from her, she actually knew very little about the situation but chose to get herself involved and try and cause problems. She quoted Dr Phil at me so many times, saying Dr Phil says you should do it this way, not that way. I said to her, you come back when you are in the same situation and then you will have the right to judge me, how you think I should handle it, because I can tell you, it's easy having eveyrthing go right and the perfect life and look down on others about situations that you couldn't dream of.
Her response was 'it will NEVER happen to me, because I am better than that and wouldn't let it'.

Well, a few years later, I have heard the very thing has indeed happened to her and now she faces losing everything, just like I did and have to make some tough choices. And guess what? She's handling it way worse than I did, cutting people off left right and centre for saying anything wrong at all, being selfish, using her children as weapons, etc. Wonder what Dr Phil would say about that?

hehe my long point is that people that sit up and judge you and judge others often have never gone through a similar thing, often have had very good lives and don't realize what pain and suffering is, don't know what hardship is. I have been to the brink of death and back in a number of ways, I have lost everything material, I have even not had enough money to eat for long periods of time.....and I wouldn't do anything different or take it back. It's made me a much better person and I almost feel sorry for these 'perfect' people who really have never grown inside and also if something ever did happen to them, they have not developed the abilities to cope like those of us that have experienced hard things have.

So pity them, you will come out the stronger person!