omg bec - was this at mmc again? you have had the worst time so far! i am so angry on your behalf! i know you're only just over on the bmi scale but, the thing is, monash takes patients in this category because they are supposed to be able to cope. if other hospitals are going to refer us (damn 1 pt over!) to monash, then we go to monash not for a lecture on our weight (thanks, already making ourselves feel bad enough without you adding to it) but because we're told they're experts in handling people 'in our circumstance'.

argh. it drives me crazy. i spent ages beating myself up for being a horrible person for getting pg when i was overweight before i came to the conclusion that, despite my weight, my body has allowed me to become pg and i need to trust it that it can handle the strain. in the meantime i can do my best to ensure i eat well etc - which is exactly what you're doing.

please do not allow this imbecile of a doctor make you feel any less worthy of being pg and a soon to be mum because he lives in the world of text books and choose not to acknowledge that each patient is an individual but would rather deliver self righteous drivel on the basis of assumptions rather than fact.

i have come to the conclusion that while doctors obviously have a lot of training & knowledge behind them, they do not necessarily know me or my body better than i do. you know yourself bec - you are not lazy, you are active, you eat well & you will NOT automatically have any complications.

edit - sorry for ranting. DP always tells me i type too much...but i'm getting more & more fired up on this topic!