Missbec i am absolutley horrified that a medical professional could be so rude and arogant. I am with everyone else you need to make a complaint so that this doctor does not continue doing this to other overweight ladies it is bad enough that he has done it to you. I would also request that you don't see the dr and find out when he will be in the clinic and try not to book an appointment for those days.
As for being overweight while pregnant that is me. I was way above my BMI with my sons pregnancy and yes i got GD but other than that all went fine. He was a natural birth weighted 8pd 11oz (little big but not huge) but i was treated with respect. As for my first pregnancy with my daughter i had preclampsia towards the end but that was also due to the stress of her father leaving me 4 weeks before she was due. Again she was a natural birth and there were no other complications through the pregnancy. With my son i gained 4 kilos and with my daughter i gained 5 kilos but after the birth i lost about 11 kilos with my daughter and lost 15kilos with my son. As long as you eat right and look after yourself no matter what size you are there is always chances of complications and yes the chances are higher when you are overwwight but there is also support out there that will help you get through you pregnancy if complications arise.
Take care of yourself and your precious unborn baby and complain about the doctor.
Goodluck
BMI of 34 here...yes I have high blood pressure but I doubt that is due to my weight as it was always normal before pregnancy.
I hate being fat and pregnant simply becuase of the way I look. I graciously (not) got told by a collegue the other day "Oh you're pregnant...I didn't know...I thought you'd just got fatter".
Have had no greif from midwives or anything to this point except that I was rejected for a home birth, just my GP saying to put on no more than 5-7 kilos. Am trying very hard.
And in addition...we were all obviously healthy enough to GET pregnant in the first place. If we were "too overweight" then nature would not have intended us to get pregnant!
HUGS - sounds like the Obs I saw in WA when I was trying to fall pregnant. I got all of the above - i was devestated and felt like it was MY fault we couldnt fall preggers and I had let my hubby down...
you know what - 2 weeks later I fell pregnant! HA! Take that!!!
Now @ nearly 27 weeks I have not had any problems! (touch wood)
HUGS and chin up - you are not alone!!!
Bec that doc sounds like an (insert rude word here). Tell him to go get over himself - i'm sure he was no perfect physical speciman!!! He sounds like a bully!
Wow - I had every intention of personally replying to every reply - I shall see how I go...
I just want to say a massive thank you to you all for getting angry on my behalf, giving me sympathy, cheering me on, and for sharing your stories... I feel so much better having read every reply, knowing I wasn't wrong to feel so angry at the treatment I recieved and to know that I do have a right to be pregnant and to have a baby... You are all so wonderful and I honestly didn't expect such a response. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
Ok here goes the personals!
Snacks - I am high risk. I have suffered more than 12 miscarriages (I stopped counting at 12), my sons birth was also rather traumatic in that I suffered a second degree tear that never healed properly and I haemorraged for 2 days post birth. I was supposed to have a transfusion but some thing got screwed up and I never got it... So unfortunately I have to go to this hospital and have this care... Luckily I only have to see them again at 28, 36 and 41 weeks. The rest of the time I can see my regular Ob who doesn't have an issue with my weight and says I am deliciously pregnant!
Jellybean - I am going to find those books! I love to read anyway and I think I have read all the pregnancy books I can find so something new is always good!! Thank you!
Sloane - I love you! Seriously! You put into words exactly what was going through my head - round and round... You can tell DP from me that you can type as much as you like..! I so appreciate the support you give... Thank you so much and big hugs! Damn that one point!
Lisa - I am so glad your pregnancies went well - gives me much hope!!
Trac - Again, thank you so much for giving me so much hope! It sounds like your son was a good weight!
Angela - I'm really glad that the treatment you are getting is good! It sounds like you are doing all the right things in all the right places... And you are right - if our bodies weren't healthy enough we wouldn't be having children!
Mrs BB - Way to go!! Stupid doctors making you feel worse when you were already going through a stressful thing... Some really need to take a lesson in bedside manner I think... I am so glad that you are pregnant and are having your much wanted baby... I hope everything continues to go well and that it's everything you ever dreamed of when you hold your baby for the very first time...
Wow - I did it. I probably didn't say everything I wanted to say because I was so worried about replying to everyone but I just really wanted you to know that each reply meant a lot to me and that I appreciated the time you went to, to post it. You really have no idea the weight (hahahah - now if body weight was that easy to shift!) you have lifted from my shoulders... You are all right and wonderful for putting yourselves out there to help a complete stranger feel better! What would I do without my Belly Belly friends?
Bec, that is absolutely horrible. He has no right to speak to you that way at all. You have every right to be angry and upset about being treated that way. So much for a 'professional'.
This guy could cause a more vulnerable woman some horrific long term body issues that could hurt her and her baby. I'd put in a complaint, just to see his tongue is reigned in. You'd be doing a public service.
I have always been overweight in mine, high BMI on some. No GD, no PE. It was probably better for my babies and myself that I was. I suffer from HG and without the excess, having been undiagnosed for so long could have been far worse than it was. So much for it always being a bad thing.
OMG what total BS about what your OB said, get yourself a new OB firstly.
I am overweight 107kgs, im not sure what you are, and I have 2 healthy children. Yes my Ob thought I am at risk for diabetes, but I went on a low GI diet the wholet way through my first pregnancy and didnt get it. I actually only gained 3kgs during my first pregnancy. I week after birth I was 97kgs, and one month later I was 87kgs. The birth was emergency c/s but nothing to do with my weight.
Even with my 2nd pregnancy (which I wasnt on low GI diet) I didnt watch what I ate, I did put on 10kgs, but lost it a week after birth, elective c/s due to my first emergency one.
Pre eclampsia runs in my family I didnt get it at all.
If you exercise daily (walking is best) and eat low GI you will lower any risk due to being overweight, totally recommend it, I showed them I did it!
YOu know I don't know what my BMI is and frankly don't give a ***** either. PG#1 I was 135kg- I m/c and was told by the GP, who I went to for a referral for a d&c, what a lean diet I should be on before I consider conceiving again. Pg#2 I gained 6 kgs from day dot to 21 wks when we lost our little boy. NOTHING was mentioned about my weight as it was a cervical issue. PG#3 I was pg 8 wks after losing our boy and by 28 wks was in hossy for high b/p. The first hospital and Ob team were great but I had to be transferred to bris.
There I was treated like a f@*%n leper. One Ob who was trying to take bloods told me I was going to die and leave my baby without a mummy if I didn't lose weight and another told me I didn't deserve to be pg. I gave birth at 31 wks due to PE and all I heard about at that hossy was that it was my fault coz of my weight yet I was in a room with 3 other women with the same condition and they were tiny. My whole time there I met only 3 other big women with PE. My sis is the smaller than a stick and she got PE worse than me. My mum had PE and my gran had PE-you see where Im going with this!
Bec I hope you have an absolutely FABULOUS PG and if you get the chance shove it in his face if you have to see him again and you have no problems- Give him a big I told you so!!!!
Thank you so much girls, for sharing your stories... It means so much to me to know I am not alone and that I'm not not normal, IYKWIM?
Tiffanny - I can't believe they treated you so so badly. It breaks my heart that at a time when you need love, care and support, you get treated like s***. Obviously the PE was due to the family history. My OB asked about that and I said no - no one has had it before and my blood pressure and everything was perfect with my first born. He was still adamant that I was a prime candidate and that I was sure to get it just from being overweight.
I really am sorry you didn't get the care you deserved.
Again a big big thank you. Reading your stories puts me at so much ease that there is no way to put it into words...
. I am with everyone else you need to make a complaint so that this doctor does not continue doing this to other overweight ladies it is bad enough that he has done it to you. I would also request that you don't see the dr and find out when he will be in the clinic and try not to book an appointment for those days.
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