We have always fed Emma after us, usually one or two hours after. She used to be in the bed, on the couches, but that has all stopped now (which she was fine with). She is still very much our baby, but I think she is aware of her place in the family (ie at the bottom!).

Veronica, I am no expert (clearly!) but I would think that because your dog has been in this habit for awhile it will be a hard one to break - and I totally understand you wanting to do it before your bub arrives! I think it's very important that you do it beforehand, even if only so he doesn't associate the changes with the baby. If I were in your shoes I would be thinking about getting a professional to help you. There are people who can come to your house, or going to a dog training school might be good. Or at least asking your vet for advice. (I will considering all of these things if we have any further problems with Emma that we can't address ourselves).

Oh, and don't worry about posting the breed of your dogs - anyone reading this thread is likely to be a dog lover, and will understand that you're in here trying to do the right thing! I do think that no matter what the breed, you can never be too careful with dogs around children so I think that you are definitely doing the best thing by trying to sort out any issues before your baby girl arrives.

Good luck hun, I will be following your story with interest - can't wait to see what other people suggest for you!