I applaud ur courage blakesmummy ,in asking .I too am trying to quit & i also was afraid to bring it up as i feel soooo guilty.
I was told by midwives & my doctor that u can't use anything ,no patches ,no gum NOTHING!!.In fact it says on the packets not to use when pregnant .The books & maybe a self hypnosis cd may b of use to u.
I smoke about 10 to 15 a day & i have been trying to cut down 1 a day .I'm down to 10 .Tomorrow i'll do 1 less or more if i can.Not ideal i know but it's what is working for me at the moment.
All the very best of luck