DH isn't even going to know I'm pregnant, let alone in labour!
RF - don't you think he will notice?
krizti - I didn't have a birth plan as such, but as far as pain relief, I had a sort of tiered approach - I thought that I would go as far as I could without any pain relief, then when I couldn't handle it anymore I would have gas, get as far as I could with gas, then move on to pethidine and as a last resort an epidural. As it turned out I got through with just gas so I was very happy with that.
It's also important to choose providers you feel you can trust or a hospital environment you feel comfortable with, that way you can work through your birth plans and preferences with them and know they will support you.
Personally I had an OB, and although I thought he was a bit of a smug git at times, and I don't know that I would use one next time, when it came to the crunch he did the job very well. As far as the midwife in the hospital of course I hated her at times during the delivery but when I saw her on the ward the next day we gave each other a big hug - we had been through something amazing together.
Good luck and hope it turns out well for you.
ETA - Oh and a good labour support person is absolutely crucial. My DH the Bear was the most awesome labour partner and was integral to me being able to have the birth I wanted.