LOL, Caro, I didn't look at your age - I just admire anyone who has a bad pregnancy and knowingly puts themselves through it again. If I had half as bad a time as many people here I'd either just have the one, adopt or find a surrogate!

I'd be mad about your treatment too - I started off by fuming at the midwife inside my own head, but then slowly started sticking up for myself... so when I was told off for the bump being too small (after having the "urgent" scan because of small bump) I even told the nasty midwife that bump-measuring was a stupid idea! What sort of midwife tells you off for the size of your bump? I don't care what weight I have or haven't put on, or about the size of the bump, I just want a healthy baby to come out!

I think gender disappointment was why I didn't want to find out the sex - I know when I see my baby I'll be so happy that gender won't matter, whereas when it's a bump it would affect me more. It has taken me a very long time to be OK with having a "whatever" - if I'd have found out at 19 or 21 weeks what I was having, I'd have a big problem getting used to it. And even bigger if I was told the "right" gender and it came out as the "wrong" one! I'm still happy and grateful I can get pg so easily and that the baby is healthy, but even if you struggle that's no reason to not want one gender over another - I'm sure a fair few of the LTTTC girls would agree that although they just want a baby, they'd love a baby boy/girl if they could pick.

You deserve good treatment, not to be overlooked because you're pregnant; that means by know-all midwives and obs who are "busy" - that's not your fault - and by everyone around you - they should look after you more, not ignore you!