I understand that people have strong ideas about it and they either will or they wont do it, but I don't get why people get hung up over other people doing it? It's none of their business and I'd be telling this person to pull their head in and butt the **** out. It's like when DH and I were getting married and his brother told us we couldn't have kids until he owned some land! I was like WTF? I told him that when we have kids is for us to decide, not him. There were a few other choice words thrown in there too. Good thing I didn't take his advice because we'd only have half as many kids as we do now. But he's a real wa.nker though.
Did you clarify that you aren't giving the baby a sex change, nor are you going to decide not to have the baby because it is a particular sex For goodness sake, you are just finding out what is already there!
We got accused of knowing and not telling and got hounded constantly - because we didn't want to find out! So opposite problem, but totally understand!
Opposite here, did not find out and were abused over it. Once work colleague was so angry I thought he was about to commit violence over it Boy he ranted on for ages about how we would not be able to plan etc
I think it says more about them than yourself. Even if they do care (I am not a fan of finding out and hate being told the gender), it is how you handle it. I would never get angry at anyone for choosing to.
We had the opposite, everyone thought we were crazy for not finding out.
Over the last 12 months I've come to realise that no matter what you do someone will have a problem with it "know better" or flat try to ram the opposite of what your doing down your throat as if it's the only way to do something.
If your happy with what your doing ignore them and try not to let it worry you or tell them your doing what's right for you and your partner and is none of their business so butt out.
Seriously? WTF is wrong with people. That's crazy.
We had a few People ask and look at us weird when we said we weren't finding out, but people actually get angry about it? That's... odd.
We had the name thing though. Told GMIL that we had chosen "Isaac" for our boys name and she said "oh no you cant call him that! That's horrible. He'll get called Zac!" We did anyway and she called him by his second name for a year and a half!
Thanks for all your support guys... I feel better now. I totally get why people want to keep it a surprise.. and that's great... I would never react or push my view on anyone and I guess I just expect the same back.
Oh and the name thing... man no one should say anything about the name you have chosen... that is cruel too! I wont be telling anyone my names until the baby is in my arms! They wont be able to try and get me to 'change my mind' when its done on on the birth certificate!!!
Wow! I'm so sorry to hear your family and friends are giving you a hard time about finding out the gender of your baby.
That seams so petty in the grand scheem of life.
We are having the opposite reaction as we have not found out. When asked what we are having I say "a baby!" It's noone elses buisness. We wanted the babys gender to be a surprise for us. Besides we have one child of each gender so what ever we get it a bonus.
It's noone elses buisness wether you find out or not, as for writing an email to deter you from finding out.....well I have nothing nice to say about that other than tell him to mind his own buisness.
I think people should mind their own business and keep their opinions to themselves.
I got huge amounts of drama from my ILs because I refused to tell them DD2's sex. Nobody but my mum and my lovely belly buddy friends knew I had found out DD1's sex so that was ok, but they all knew that I found out DD2's sex but I refused to tell any of them until she was born. My DH hadn't wanted to find out, so I refused to tell anyone else the sex of our baby until my DH knew first, which meant after her birth. They were furious.
I'd just be telling them all to sod off. Your baby. Your choice. Sadly though it seems that from the second your pregnancy is known, everything has an opinion on everything and so many people seem to be offended when you don't take their advice.
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For goodness sake, you are just finding out what is already there!
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