Here is a little of our story...

DH and I have been trying to a baby for 3 years and early this year we learned that his brother and our new sister in law were having their first baby. I took the news badly, I didn't want to see them or talk to them or anything, it took me ages to get over it. I was so mad they had only been married since October and now they were starting their family and didn't even have to wait. It seemed so unfair. I remember DH telling me at the time that it would be okay and that our time would come blah blah, all the things people tell you to try and make you feel better. Personally that doesn't work for me.

Anyways so in April this year DH and I got referred to TasIVF and we had an appointment booked for the 25th May. About a week after making the appointment my period was late. I didn't get excited because I knew that my periods were irregular and that DH has the trifector of sperm issues. About a week later I caved in and did a pregnancy test fully expecting my billionth BFN Much to my surprise it was a BFP!!!!! I cried for ages ad I finally calmed down enough to call DH and tell him.

One of the first things we talked about that night was how we were going to tell our really good friends, who we were hoping would agree to be the godparents of our bub. These are our closest friends, Nic was the matron of honour at our wedding and her husband has also been a good friend of our family for years. The have also been trying to have a baby for over 18 months and we used to talk a lot about TTC. They have now gone through 5 failed FET and its heartbreaking to see how worked up about TTC they are. I can fully relate to that because I was the same, once that maternal instinct kicks you in the guts its hard when you try and try and nothing happens for so long and then you see all these other people who just fall pregnant at the drop of a hat.

I am so excited and happy to finally get my BFP and I really want to share the news with everyone but I am worried that it would do more damage at the moment as they are going through some really bad times with TTC. I don't want to rub it in their face but at the same time if it was me, I would want to know.

So finally after all that my question to you ladies is, How do you tell them? Have you been in a similar situation? What did you do? What was their reaction? Would you want to wait until everyone finds out or be told first?

TIA xxx