To me, it's funny how you guys are so comfortable with phone, but especially text. To me it's totally disrespectful - I figure if I have to go through this difficult journey and put one a brave face at difficult occasions - the least my closest friends can do is deal with my sadness if it happens. Especially if they acknowledge how hard it was "i know this is hard for you, but I am pregnant". It felt like in person they were saying, "I know you, I know your journey, an is am here for you. I'll sit with you in the sadness if it comes and I won't judge you for it. I'm prepared to do this the hard way for you, cause I know that this is even harder for you than it is for me".

Perhaps it is something LTTTCers and their close friends should talk about before they get pregnant.... That way everyone knows what way will suit them when the time comes. It makes if very tricky for people to just 'know' as there are so many options. Perhaps what is more important is the words you choose when you say things, rather than the "how".