I agree, I think it's sad that society is pressuring people into wanting to be what is not reasonable. I too am/ was a size 14 pre pg. Ialso had isues pre pg and early on- I was sooo worried at the begining of my pg that I would get 'too' big, but as time went on I just accepted that I WILL get bigger and that is the most normal thing in the world. I am pg and if I wasn't getting bigger it would probably mean something is wrong with me or my little baby inside me.
I eat when I want to (which is less than pre pg!!), trying to make sure it is healthy for me and bubba, exercise when I have the energy and sleep when I can. I have put on 9kg so far and that is as normal as you can get. If that makes me lazy or unacceptable in society's eyes then so be it. I am learning not to worry too much about what anyone else thinks of me noone's opinions of me matter EXCEPT MINE- considering I am healthy and so is bubba. I heard a saying the other day- 'My self worth is not caught up in your opinions of me'... I think everyone should live their live with that thought!
I have gotten pretty big, and I still have 7 weeks to go, with alot of people telling me so, even my mum saying ' Well you definately don't take after me, I was tiny'...(mind you she is tiny herself at 5'0 and about 50 kg now at 60yrs old! I can only imagine what she looked like when she was 25-30 yrs) but I try to ignore them. Everyone is different and pg is a blessing and we should realise that, so many women/people have trouble achieving it. I am trying to focus on my mental state, if bubba is ok and if I feel healthy physically, not if I look good.
I am also focusing on getting back to my pre pg state- reasonably healthy and fit, and then some, although I'm not being unrealistic. I know that I will probably feel different, be tired/overwhelmed etc and things will happen slowly... but I want to be healthy for my baby, my DH and myself, not for society.

Kellie.