True, BG. I have got a long way through without being bothered too much. Although, MIL was on the phone offering me the silk coming home dress at only 10 weeks, and asking if my feet were swelling yet.

It wasn't at all deliberate, but at first when people offered us stuff, I could honestly reply that we needed to wait until we had cleared the space. Then we bought a flat-packed cot... Sorry, but we've already got a cot. Change table - we have a chest of drawers on layby with a change tray on top, but thanks for the offer.

I haven't actually talked about it with DH yet, but I think that he's thinking along similar lines to me. He kept trying to wander off and play with the dog when we were going through the clothes...

I'm ever so slightly tempted, just out of spite, to keep for myself or "lose" some of the stuff that SIL wants back. Not that I think I could ever go through with such a plan, but it's nice to contemplate for now.

I still don't get it - what makes someone think that the grotty old baby bath the ducks swim in is good enough for someone else's child? What makes people think that the 20 year old cot stored in a car port is in any way safe or clean for a child to sleep in, knowing that they will also suck on it, chew on it, etc. What goes through some people's brains when someone's having a baby?

BW