to all you beautiful mums and bubs.
hope you all doing good and all the bubs are keeping you all very busy.all is good here with us coop and i are very sick with the flu and hopeing miss c doesnt get it .its freezing cold here i have 3 dressing gowns on and im still cold and poor old coop had to go back to work today .
anyways lol......
all is good and my girl is beeming ,smiling her head off 24hrs a day.thank you for all thinking of us ,we miss you all and wish we had more bb time lol but talk about no time lol..
gooodd luk to you kelly with your fet.to all you girls i luv ya all and huge hugs to you all.
Hi girls - like BW I have been reading but not posting. We are rather busy at the moment with trying to find a house - we have a lovely 2 bed, 2 storey apartment in a beautiful central suburb in Melbourne, but we are fast running out of space with Miss Jazzy getting bigger and more active by the day. So the time has come to upgrade. We are so fortunate to be in the position where we are going to keep our apartment and turn it into an investment property - we figure if it doesn't work out we can always sell it down the track and make a nice profit on it. You gotta just bite the bullet and try sometimes! So very anxious about it all at the moment and we are freaking out about how much debt we will be in, but then we will also have a lot of assets. Going to an auction this weekend in the suburb next 2 us for a beautiful 3 bed, 2.5 bathroom, 2 storey townhouse with courtyard. Way bigger than what we have at present and to have a little outside area will be just heaven! The whole back of the ground floor of the house opens up with lovely bi-folds so would be wonderful in the summer. We have set a really strict budget, so really not sure how we will go. Trying hard not to get too emotionally invested in this property. I know if this one doesn't work out another one will just be around the corner.
Next to freaking out about the above, Jazzy has now gone on to have a total of 4 febrile convulsions. It is happening pretty much everytime she spikes a fever at the moment. We have had discussions with the Paed and he says that unfortunately it looks like she is just one of the unlucky few that this happens to. He said that we should expect numerous convulsions up until she is 2, tapering off to occassional from 2-3 and then hopefully none after the age of 3. The only way to stop them is to put Jazzy on full time epilepsy medication, which obviously comes with its own set of problems. Paed said that because the convulsions are not harmful and cause no long term damage that he does not like putting a child as young as her on daily medication. So looks like we are just going to have to ride it out. As scary as it is, I have to say that I am getting a little calmer with them - sounds terrible to say, but it is amazing what you can cope with when you have to get used to it!
Jazzy is going from strength to strength - she is a talking/walking/running machine! Just the cheekiest, cutest little button I have ever seen (not that I'm biased!) She is LOVING nursery now. She NEVER cries at drop off anymore and actually really looks forward to getting in there. It is making being back at work 3 days a week so much easier. They do so much stuff there that I just can't do with her at home - mainly because we don't have an outdoor area (which may change soon fingers crossed!)
I will try and get back later to catch up properly with you all - sorry about the ME post girls, there just never seems to be enough time at the moment.
thanks for the welcome, I still can't really believe that I actually have a little baby to write about after everything we went through. I guess the surreal feeling dies away at some stage but for now we're still enjoying just gazing at Finn in wonder.
So far he's been pretty good with sleeping at night although we're finding it somewhat difficult to settle him during the day at times after feeding. Yesterday he decided that two hourly feeds was the way to go form 9-5 so I didn't really get a lot done though thank goodness he then went 4 and then 5 hours at night. Feeding wise, well we had a few issues at hospital with lack of colostrum and attachment so had to use nipple shields and now he won't feed without them. My boobs are relatively big and apparently my nipples are flat so it seems the nipple shield helps. I was a little concerned but the maternal and child health nurse said not to worry about it at all so i'm feeling a little better though still worried about all the things i've read...
Another question for all you wise mums - how long does it take to get into something vaguely resembling a routine? Or is that just completely wishful thinking at this stage?!
Hope everyone is going well - I promise to start doing persies next time
Sounds like you're doing pretty well Lise! 2-hourly feeds during the day (or even mor eoften) is totally normal. It'll get easier as your baby gets bigger and is able to feed more quickly. As for routine - don't expect anything before 12 weeks . Sometimes babies fall into patterns before then, but generally not. It's easiest to just go with the flow, especially early on. And, of course, as soon as you think you've got a nice routine going, they'll up and change on you anyway!
Do you have a sling or carrier of some sort for during the day? Anyway, hope you're taking advantage of feed times to get some rest.
You might want to call the ABA or get on to a lactaction consultant about the shields. No harm in using them, but they're a real nuisance!
Janie - sorry about the convulsions. That must be so scary But it sounds like Jazzy is doing wonderfully anyway!
Get well soon Smithy
Have my fingers crosssed for you Kelly
Hiya BW. Any more clarity on the IVF decision? It's a tough spot to be pushed into.
to everyone else
We're good. Just cruising along. I'm working, but actually getting paid to sit around at the moment as work's gone quiet. what a shame.
A continues to blather on non-stop. Oh, he came up with a cool name for the new baby the other day: Kicker.
Hi all MIA due to work, life and a very active little man
MissMagpie you are so so so great to be so good about DP's daughter in your home it's funny how little children love big children so lovely to see. Glad you're doing well and so is Trent
Happy Birthday Lyla time flies Kahlan
Smithy hope DH is being good and giving you loands of back rubs miss C is getting so cute
Saph glad X loves his solids hay did you brave Target Sale? NUTS
Marcellus how's pg life treating you?
Hi Murph hope you haven't been freezing in KI. I was there a fortnight ago, all snuggled up by the fire it was so cold but nice to have lots of cuddles with Linc and DH
Happy 9months to Tara and KellyD hope you're energy has retuned
BW wow what a change I hope it's much better for you teaching is HARD work
Hi to everyone else, been a slacker but will try better.
What's new with me! well DH did it he's quit his job and will be at home with Linc full time as of next Friday. Leaving me to enjoy work again and not do the 7-8am dash which isn't good for me or Linc.
Linc is rolling and rolling and rolling and rolling it is so cute, one minute he's in the lunge room then he's rolling into the kitchen to say "hi mum" He's still so hyper and has just recently decided he doesn't like his jolly jumper, so not sure what to do with his energy THOUGHTS PLEASE!
Work is crap but I"m looking for something back in the government and full time as money is Tight Tight. I've been delighting in Lincoln delighting in other children which has made me think maybe I should work on DH to try for another bub with out frosties. He was pretty sure he didn't want any more I was half half but don't know so may things to consider but is it fair for linc not to have a sibling close to his age DSS and DSD are 15 and 19 years older than Linc?
Hope all are having a great day.
oh Lincoln is 6 months Saturday time really does fly.
Lise - I didn't see anything resembling a routine before 5 months!! Everything the books said didn't happen with my DS. I agonised for ages wondering why I didn't understand his cries (like the books said I would) He didn't show sleepy signs until about 4 months. So in the early days I eventually learnt to go with the flow. If he cried I always assumed he was hungry even if he had just fed five minutes beforehand. My motto became 'if you see an open mouth, stick a boob in it!' (Though I think my DH was disppointed that he didn't seem to be included in that rule!!!) Gradually the feeds spaced out themselves after 12 weeks. I stopped trying to put him down for a sleep as it was causing too much stress for both of us. If he slept for five minutes on my lap or an hour in his sling it really didn't matter. Eventually I noticed he started showing a pattern. It was only after the third day when he fell asleep on the boob when I was watching Neighbours at 1pm that I twigged he might be sleepy at 1pm!!!! LOL
In all I really don't know who these people are who write the books and say babies feed every three hours or whatever. Out of all my friends at the babycentre I have only met one mum who in the early days had a baby who fed every three hours and she had to wake them up for a feed as they were jaundiced. Everyone else was feeding constantly or every hour. I think I remember hearing that the advice about three-four hourly feeding has somehow spilled over from advice for a formula fed baby??
Ahem. Yes, I didn't want to tell Lise that DS didn't have a routine that I could sort of count on till he was like... 18 months or something.
"Those books" should be burned. That is my opinion anyway
hey girls,hope your all going good today.
janie,murph,grub,marcellus,saph,bw,bg,farmgirl,boc ,green,lise,poppy,kelly im thinking of you all girls and i hope you have a wonderful week.dh and i have our 4th wedding anniverary thursday and its dh birthday the same day,so his getting a new motor for the ride on heheheh we blew the old one up bumma.love to you all xoxo big sloppys from baby charie
Last edited by onthefly; July 26th, 2010 at 05:04 PM.
Thanks for all your responses re routines ladies, I must admit i'm feeling a lot better now! I was wondering when I would work out the difference between a hungry, bored, sore tummy, over tired cry etc, and wondering when he might start setting into a more predictable routine. After all, the books say by now he should be in a regular pattern but alas he musn't have read that one! I think i'll be ignoring the books and just going with the flow. One more question though - now that Finn has regained his birth weight we've moved to demand feeding rather than waking him every 3 hours etc. At night he actually goes 6-7 hours without a feed - should I be waking him sooner or just letting him go until he wakes himself for a feed? I'm taking him to the clinic to get weighed again tomorrow but just interested in your thoughts regarding waking him for feeds versus just letting him dictate feeding times...
Kelly - hope you're coping well with your cycle as well as a baby. I know I was emotional enough when I was stimming so wishing you all the very best!
Greenslw - glad that DH is going to be home looking after Linc and you can focus on work without having to stress about other things also
BOC - have you had a lovely weekend at home with JD and DH!
Murph - glad to hear about the Lions club chipping in for Jaz, must be such a relief.
Smithy - hope you have a lovely anniversary with DH
Marcellus - thanks for the tips. I think i'm going to call ABA as even with the nipple shields (which are indeed a nuisance!!) my boobs are still hurting half the time so think we might still be having some attachment issues or something...
Big hello to everyone else and apologies for the lack of persies. Finn has decided it's feeding time again so my computer time has come to an abrupt end. Hope everyone is well xx
Yep, get on to those boobs. If you PM Barb also, she may be able to recommend a good LC in your area. Attachment issues are usually fixable (and sore boobs suck!)
As for demand feeding, how often is he feeding all up? How many wet & dirty nappies? You want 4-5 wet disposables (or 6-8 cloth) plus at least a few poos per day. Bf babies will often poo every time you feed them early on, too. If he's getting at least 8 feeds (that would be bare minimum mind) and plenty of nappies, then it's probably fine to leave him longer overnight (enjoy!). Just keep an eye on that, as well as weight gains etc.
Sometimes books are useful, just remember that your baby is an individual and has his own unique needs, and your circumstances are unique also. Pick and choose.
Congratulations Smithy! Sorry, I changed the colour on your post as my old eyes couldn't read it.
Hi Farmgirl!
Fingers still crossed for you Kelly
Hope you and Sam are well BW
Who says you're not supposed to Green? Sounds like it's a good idea
We're getting there, marcellus. Slowly but surely we are recovering... The problem is that this usually means it's about time for the next bug to start making plans and to attack the household!
Haven't moved any closer to a decision on more IVF now or not, but I have decided I will at least consult with an FS to see what they say.
Welcome Lise. If it was me I wouldn't wake to feed but it really depends on whether LO is having plenty of wet nappies or not. Lyla when she was about 5 months (teething) when for a whole morning without any milk (she refuses) and only one wet nappy by 1 pm, I had to feed her every hour or so just so she get enough fluid.
Thanks for the birthday wishes.
good luck Kelly.
Congrats Smithy.
Murph, want to speak to you so I am going to PM you.
Green... glad to hear DH will be doing fulltime dad.. but you are so very brave... I don't I could trust my DH to be a fulltime dad within the first 12 months. He does everything go but struggles a little when things go pear shape... which is all the time with a bub.
BW.. poor you... so far in our household only Lyla and DH get sick... somehow God always spare me... to take care of all...
Hi to anyone else I have missed.
AFU, we had the biggest 1st birthday party with over 100 guest! Lyla had a wonderful time and everyone was so thrilled to see how she had grown, walking and interacting with others... so sociable. .. she's mimicking words we say...sorry got to run.. will further update later... never seem to get the time to do proper posts.
Thanks Marcellus and Kahlan for your thoughts. We took him to the clinic this morning to get weighed and he's put on 325g in one week so the MACH nurses were quite happy to let him go longer as long as he continues to have a good number of nappies and a good weight gain. I must admit as much as i'm enjoying the good night sleeps I feel a bit neglectful letting him sleep so long during the day but I guess I know he's putting on enough (more than enough!!) weight so should all be good. Marcellus - can I ask who Barb is? I still want to talk to a lactation consultant about the shields and attachment issues.
Ooops, I have an awake baby so better dash. Hope all are going well
to all you beautiful mums and bubs.
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But it sounds like Jazzy is doing wonderfully anyway!
it's funny how little children love big children so lovely to see. Glad you're doing well and so is Trent
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