Parenting after LT TTC #8

[Lenny]

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[saph204]

Ooh first one in, Just changed my signiture. Xavier with his birthday cake. Yum. Cant you tell I am avoiding doing school work. lol

[Janie71]

Hi All!

Don't have time to do a post at mo, but just wanted to jump in to the new thread.

By the way - off to London on the weekend for two weeks! So exicted, just not really looking forward to that long flight with an almost 2 year old!

Janie xxx

[TaRhLi.]

Jumping onto the new thread as well...

[Murph01]

Safe travels janie. Lots of distractions and walking the aisles for you grub no jokes this time, you've had a rough time. Can't imagine the frustration after you finally got your little happy boy back. Big hugs to you both.
Big news to over shadow my other news. Today at fifteen months old my completely deaf baby said her first word. Mam, mam, mem, memmm ...oh the sweetest sound in the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[grub17]

yyyiiipppeee jazzy!!! what a great first word!!! Ash's was Da! lol. Oh she's away now. you must have been beside yourself when you heard her!!!

Hi Janie! wow you are brave! we are debating the 4 hr flight from darwin to syd later this year with a 22 month old and a newborn.. eeek. So i'd love to hear from you when you get back regarding what worked. Have fun! and be safe!

saph - you are just a flash little lady now.. new sig, avvy, RAK lol.

although he's sick, we took ash around to a local park today - he's been cooped up in the house for 2 weeks - and he went silly and loved it. i took his dinner with us (we rode our bikes around) and came for bites of tea in btween playing lol. I just hope he sleeps well tonight cos i'm so tired.

ox

[Lenny]

Safe travels Janie. Look forward to hearing about it when you get back.

[BOC]

YAY Jazzy!!! What a happy day for you! And yes, glad for you her first word was Mum, Jagger's first word was Jaz (the dog)

Safe travels Janie!

Hope little Ash gets better soon Grub!

Not on here for long, lots to do. Tonight we are heading off on a romantic kid-free weekend for our anniversary! First time we've ever left Jagger overnight, Gran & Pa are coming to stay with him at our place. Should be interesting. He'll be fine but I don't know about DH & me! LOL We're only going about 45min away so still close enough if things go pear-shaped.

Alright well better get going, this washing ain't gonna hang itself out!

[grub17]

omg boc good on you! up the valley?? have a great time. you are braver than me, i'm hopeless when it comes to leaving bubba... not that i don't think he'll be fine, I just have no faith in anyone else's ability to take care of my precious angel like i do lol. talk about ego!

Kelly that is just great news. you are the twin machine hahahaaha. sorry i've forgotten, but when are they thinking you'll deliver?

have a good weekend everyone! i'm going to try and talk DH into taking me out for lunch we'll see if it works lol.

[Loveinamist]

still reading! Still on phone so real pain to type and express ideas properly! Therefore making persies difficult because you have to read back etc etc! We are walking now! Sleeping is better. Had cranio sacral therapy done on him and it seems to have made a difference. Now sleeps for 5 to 7 hour blocks but still needs tons of boob and patience to get to sleep! Still won't go into a cot but i love cosleeping now even more! Couldn't imagine him sleeping away from me.
Hope you are all well!

[grub17]

nuttin to say. Just being a show off with my avatar!!! hahahaha.

[PumpkinZulu]

Hi guys, I also thought I should join in here. I didn't think LTTTC would affect my post baby life, but I'm finding that it is and thought it would be nice to be among others in the same position.

So briefly, we were ttc for two years, three miscarriages in that time, one at 8 weeks and two chem pregnancies. There is infertility on both sides for us; DH has 96% anucleated sperm, which basically mean 96% of his sperm have no heads. Seeing as the head is where the genetic makeup is, the 96% are useless. I have polycystic ovaries, although apparently not the syndrome. I also have scarring in my uterus from an infection after a D&C, and suspected endo, which I was going to have a lap for but I fell pregnant with my DD instead

I thought that once I finally had my own baby, the feelings of jealously over women who could fall pregnant easily would at least dissipate, if not go away altogether. But Isla is 3 months old, and from the day she was born, that I've still found myself feeling jealous and resentful over people that fall easily. Does anyone else still feel that, and does it ever go away? Xx

[lise]

Hi dreamrise and Pumpkin Zulu, welcome to the thread and congrats on your little pink bundles

Dreamrise, what a rough trot you had, hope things can settle down down Danicia is here and you can enjoy your newborn smuggles.

PZ, I can only speak from my own experience but I'm afraid I STILL feel that way sometimes. Not always, but not always predictably either. A friend who also went through IVF for her first announced several weeks ago she was pregnant, and that it was a natural pregnancy. I was super happy for her - how often have we all dreamt that might happen?! - but I'd be lying if I said I didn't shed a tear or two for myself. But certainly everyone here knows where you're coming from xx

Jamie, thanks for your thoughts re childcare. You're exactly right. I used to work in childcare myself so am very particular about where I want DS to go. Unfortunately for financial reasons I had to leave him at this centre but without going into details suffice to say I was EXTREMELY unhappy and have pulled him out. He has a spot at the only centre I want him to go to from January and in the interim my sister, DH and then my mother (from October sometime) will look after him. Of course as soon as I'd made these arrangements the centre offered us a spot starting in a few weeks! I turned it down in the end as I think DS is still a little scarred from the other centre, and I also want him to get over all his illnesses before starting formal care again. I swear, this winter he's been sick just about every week!!!!! Plus it was on a day we have playgroup and I love playgroup - it's my original mothers group and we still catch up weekly.

Anyway, enough babbling from me. Have you moved yet Janie? Hope it went well!

And hello to everyone else, hope all is well. Come say hi and let us know how you're going

[Lily Dust]

I thought that once I finally had my own baby, the feelings of jealously over women who could fall pregnant easily would at least dissipate, if not go away altogether. But Isla is 3 months old, and from the day she was born, that I've still found myself feeling jealous and resentful over people that fall easily. Does anyone else still feel that, and does it ever go away? Xx

PZ, I have been stalking this thread for weeks now trying to work out how to ask that very thing!!!! So thank you Ive been here a few times but cant keep up as there are so many of us LTTTC'ers. I completely feel that way still and tbh am struggling with the wanting another baby, not sure it can ever happen again and terror of HG just to add insult to injury.

Do any of you ever feel like you dont 'fit' anywhere? Im 'that woman' you never want to hear about while undergoing IVF or LTTTC. We spent 5 years TTC, with 11 IVF cycles and still no baby. Were about to go back and I realised I was pregnant, 3 weeks later the HG started.

Sorry, a bit of a woe is me post but Im just trying to find somewhere where I fit these days.

[~TT40~]

happy hatchday Hunter!!!
Spock is now crawling. and even pullung herself up! that is too soon for me!!! she also just got her 2nd tooth.

we are thinking of the next one. if we werent doing ivf i probably would wait until she is 2. but because of it we are going to try when she is 1. i will regret and be sad about not having more children but wont regret having them too soon. even tho Spock is still a baby.

[~TT40~]

yay Saffy!!! it is so awesome you are here!!

hi Yogi!

[onthefly]

Hiya!

[~TT40~]

most of my baby chat is with my belly buddies. strange that ltttc seems to fade once you have your bub... i had a dream the other night i gave birth to twin girls and i was sitting there with both of them on my boobs and Spock sitting next to me and i remember feeling overwhelmed with relaxation. all stress and pressure was gone. i didnt feel that good cause of the babies tho. i remember thinking how fantastic it was that we would never have to go through ivf ever again. (as 3 is a good comprimise number...i could live with 3 kids)
aside from thst brief couple of hrs of sleep where i dreamed that is about all the sleep happenibg here... atleast i know why it didnt happen last night...she had 9 poo nappies in 24hrs. 7of those were serious poo splosion ones....im sick of poo!!!
how is everyone else??