Perfectly normal. I lost my first bub at 8 weeks and then I was lucky enough to get a BFP the next month and I bled off and on till I was 12 weeks - so I def knopw where you are coming form! I was allways at the toilet checking, touching my boobs all the time and I did quite a few tests to check line darkness.. Oh I have done it all!
It will get better for you - after a little while you do relax and enjoy your preg - you still worry about things in the back of your mind but it gets easier.
I've had 2 m/c's over the past 11 months and am now 4 weeks 5 days and am doing everything everyone else has mentioned. In fact, I am sore from wiping to check as I've been almost obsessive. I also have just purchased more poas tests so that I can examine the lines every morning - pretty crazy. My scan isn't until 7 weeks and I will probably be in such a state by then.
I remember how unquestioning I was with the first preg before it m/c'ed - I was nothing but a ball of excitement. That seems like a life time ago - who was that naive girl?
Sue- have just come back in here and see you are pregnant! wonderful!!! congratulations
as for your query, you are so normal! I have been exactly the same with all my pregnancies. It's very stressful and hard to relax. I think the first trimester is a tough time..much of our innocence is robbed by this process and having experienced loss. Just try and find joy in each little milestone and think as positive as you can.
Hoping all is going really well
Sue, you are totally normal feeling that way. I was a basket case in the first tri, especially after 2 episodes of spotting. Even though this baby is so very wanted, I did occasionally wonder if I could back out early on because I just didn't think that I could cope
All I can say is one day at a time....you will get there! I managed it and am now only days away from meeting our bub. You can do it!!
Thanks guys, all of what you've said has been very helpful.
I am feeling much better about it all today now that Sunday is past. I think that I was way more traumatised by the miscarriage than i ever thought.
I have my first scan booked for next tuesday 11th Aug (i'll be 6w1d) so I am trying to just focus on that. I'm also busy at work so that is really helping.
Oh, does anyone know when the earliest we can hear the heartbeat? Will I hear something there at my first scan?
Sue - I would think that they schedule the 1st scan at a time where they think they can see a heart beat...although yours is earlier than I'm used to. Have you tried googling to see when a heart beat can be detected via a vaginal U/S?
A mass of fetal cells, separate from the yolk sac, first becomes apparent on transvaginal ultrasound just after the 6th week of gestation. This mass of cells is known as the fetal pole. It is the fetus in its somite stage. Usually you can identify rhythmic fetal cardiac movement within the fetal pole, although it may need to grow several mm before this is apparent.
So, it sounds like your scan is early - but you may be able to see the heart beat. You definitely will be able to see the gestational sac and yolk sac.
Sue, you'll only get to see the HB at an early scan. I'd say you are in with a reasonable chance at 6w1d, if they can't see it externally they'll just do an internal. BTW, I had my first scan externally at 6w6d and could see the HB clearly .
I didn't actually hear bub's HB until I was about 16 weeks along, although it is possible to hear it a few weeks earlier than I did. A lot of caregivers won't try to listen with a Doppler though before about 14 weeks or so because you can't always hear it then. Good luck!
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