MissMagpie, hmmm massage nice, only 6 weeks to go lucky you.
Neptune it is so good to vent.
JenC delicious hospital dinner? for real. my thoughts are with you and 1 & 2
MHB Hope it all works out ok.
Smithy Swimming daily sounds so nice.
Ok Greens winge time:
DF can't come to my 20 week scan! why because one of his mates is having 2 days off work cos it's his birthday! what's worse is his GF is pg too and he's having a day off for her scan. WHY CANT MY DF?????? I'm angry
My mum is also now 'busy' so inbetween working with my job I will take a flying 2 hour early lunch have my scan on my own and go back to work, then again ON MY OWN the OB on Wednesday! Really ajitated. He can take an RDO on friday to pick his brother up but not for my OB appointment
Ok happy note post winge. Mum is comming Monday someone is looking after me.
Murph: I hope you had a fab time catching up with your family. Just what the dr ordered for you.
MHB: I hope you get some good results and that nothing is wrong with you or bub.
Jen: I hope your little ones are playing better now and that they stay around cooking a bit longer.
Everyone else, I hope that you are all doing well.
AFM: DH had last 2 days off work so he took me out for lunch again yesterday. It is nice to have some time alone together. Had Ob appt today and bubs has already dropped... Ahh... we are only at 32 weeks on Friday although at least I now have some more room under my boobs so can breath a bit easier. Still haven't booked in our delivery date yet it will be done at my next appt in 2 weeks but I was told it will be in the week of the 12th October (38+ weeks) as he likes to delivery between the 38-39 week mark. Another mental hurdle will be reached on Friday which is that if bubs does decide to come early she will be able to be cared for at our local hospital and not have to be transferred to Melb for care. So after Friday the only remaining hurdle is for her to arrive safely. Oh, I think we have also decided on a name.. Yay it is my favourite name and DH likes it as well although we are keeping it a secret until she arrives.
Hope you are all doing well and that your little bundles are playing nicely for you all.
all round, especially MHB, JenC, Neptune and you too Greenslw...ouch, so much thrown up at such a difficult time. I'm reading and will be back later to write properly. Just letting you know I'm thinking of you all. xoxo
Just wanted to quickly get something off my chest. For all of us that apologise for venting, it's often the best thing and helps us to see things clearer, whether in the process we feel silly for over reacting or we actually start to support ourselves more. Even just writing it down on paper gets it out of your head and into a more concrete form where there is only one way traffic onto the page and not all the conflicting stuff that goes round in our heads. We can think about it from different angles but this way at least it's not all at once with the noise and confusion of everything else going on. talking on BB gives the opportunity to be given support and feed back and who cares if you feel a bit silly for getting it out there (no one knows you, but we do care about you).
It's the Saph posts and the Neptunes and Greenslw and all those ME posts that we say sorry for that keep us all so connected, looking at our lives and thinking about others. It's like Neptune said, you just get used to coping with your lot and accepting that's how things are but when given the perspective of outsiders you mightn't think it all looks so normal. I know people looking in on me seeing me coping and managing day to day with DH's (and my own) mental balancing act would think it's hard work and we should get help, but in my situation there's not much I can do except know the signs and support both of us to be healthy and he does the same too, he never milks his illness. To undo the trauma he has been through is to open a Pandora's box and life is too short to live in the past to fix things, so we work on the present and cope the best way we can without letting too much of the past haunt us. You can't block it completely and a buddhist monk once likened it to having to eat an enormous mountain of salt, sometimes you can add a teaspoon to water every now and then and reduce the size of the mountain. If we avoid it completely, the mountain will never get any smaller but sometimes he just has to drink some yucky salty water and that's okay because it's better than having no hope of it ever getting any smaller.
Maybe Neptune, your DH will take some salty water this weekend and he will need all of your support to help him get it down.
I really am meant to be working on my lab report so I will kick myself if I stay too long, but here is my very quick (yeah right!) run down of Townsville...yay, had a great time, my sis threw me a surprise baby shower at my Dad's who had a pig on a spit and mates and Victorian rellies drinking rum and playing silly baby party games in the bar by the pool. too cute to see your uncle, brother and father all playing games to win rattles and fairy cakes whilst drinking rum!! The little kids complained there were no games for them and the grown ups were having too much fun...aww come on, we couldn't p[lay baby bingo all night! Yeah so pretty cool. We got to watch our niece up from Vic playing in the national comp and she even got sin binned for showing a bit of sparkAll us family took up half the crowd and some were not as polite to the ref as you might imagine when our flesh and blood was sidelined the only downside to our time away was poor old DH had a bit of a setback but a few days at home with all things familiar and he is back on safe ground with the pups and me. we loved it though and it was mostly just what the doc ordered.
Okay, it's off my chest and now i can get back to work. I'm thinking of you all and JenC and MHB, hope its good news for you soon. Greenslw, you have a bit to work through and I'd be pretty upset too. Saph, ouch, some toddler training for you before this bub comes into the picture. Oh well there is still time. goodluck.xoxo
hi lovely ladies, i'm going to do persies but i'm a fuzzy brained woman at the moment so forgive me if i miss anyone etc ox
murph - that is excellent about your tvle trip. sounds like the baby shower was a blast! my sister's best friend, who lives this way, has offered to host one for me... i wasn't expecting one at all so am super touch and super excited about it not sure if we'll have rum liek yours tho lol! and i agree about everyone feeling ok for the occassion "me rant'' ... we don't mind and if you need it, go right ahead.
mhb - i'm really sorry to hear you have hit yet another hurdle and it's so frustating the docs didn't pick it up. how are you going at the moment? thinking of you oxox
kellyD - yay for the name and for the time you've had with DH! and how exciting that its all coming to an end and you'll get to meet your baby soon !!! i'm super jealous! lol oxox
oh greenslw - that is terrible, i don't blame you for being cranky about it. I have to go to my appointments in oct/nov alone cos dh is away and we've no family here so i really understand how you feel... it's such a spesh time, you can feel very alone without that support... at least my DH has an excellent excuse tho! hope it all goes well and work is treating you okay.
oh saph - what a naughty little boy! but i suppose it's a pretty scary time for him with all the change that's coming but he must be picking that sort of stuff up from somewhere (ie another child or such). I hope you can figure out some way to help him through this time. Sorry don't have any suggestions with no experience in that area... maybe a post in the general forum might throw up something you will find helpful. I really feel for you love and sending you a hug oxoox
miss magpie - i have nothing nice to say to you lady! weekend away, preggy massage, finishing work soon, sleeping well pft pft pft you very spoilt woman - suppose you'd better lap it up while it lasts tho lol. serioulsy, good on you for enjoying this time, i think that's an important part of being preggy - to look beyond all the stuff that's happening to our body and just step back and smell the roses (which can be hard when you are trying not to vom, i suppose and then can't get back up from all that smell cos you no longer bend in the middle lol - still you get my drift right?)
hey neptune - hoping things do happen on the home tidy front. that's no good about the swelling, suppose the warm weather of late isn't helping too much either. but the 2.5weeks of work left sounds wonderful!!!!
jen - what doing? have you overheard any good gossip while sitting there in hospy? figured out who is who and which nurses to avoid etc? lol. I hpoe you are taking care and not going stir crazy. What's the latest in terms of arrival times (sounds like you are a tarmac when i say that lol).
smithy- how's the ms going thesedays? hopefully its gone and you are well.
hey BOC - sorry don't know much about dates and such. we've only ever been changed once, by one day very early on (i suspect a miscalculation on the fertility nurse's part). Have you been able to ask any more questions about the whole shebang yet? but whoo ooo for the good heartbeat sounds!
sammiejam - how you coping lovely? hope it's all okay for you at the moment. did you have the other scan this week?? ox
bec - hope you are well enough to remove yourself from the office floor! has ms settled down sweetie?
shout out there to bella! and where's Two Mums gone to???
I know i missing out heaps of people but, well, you all know....
afm - not much to report. reflux has arrived; appetite has settled; grunting when moving on the rise; zits have arrived and have now employed my DH as my personal ''deforestation'' man due to all that lovely extra hair. He offers a great service, even did my kini area for free (it was a selfless act where he copped an eyeful and wore a very cheeky, crooked grin the entire time).
one question - i find i get really really painful crampy things across my lower belly. they feel like what i think a contraction would. i didn't think BH hurt so not sure if its them. they usually hit if i get up too fast or in an odd manner (ie when i kinda forget i'm pregs and jump out of the car/off my work chair like a bandit escaping a bank). Anyway, i got one cramp so bad as i got out of the car i dropped my shopping list - and all you preg ladies know that means i bought $100 worth of groceries and forget the 5 things i really needed to get! i think it's just muscles straining but today's took my breath away... anyone else getting this?
we're off to syd this weekend for a christening but not looking forward to the 2 hr car trip. ... Murph how did you go sitting down for the tvle trip?
had my liver scan today was hard to find he said as bubs is in the way and he mentioned that his big "testes" were blocking the view, DF was so smug! will get results of all tests tomorrow but im staying positive, im almost at the finish line and its supposed to be one of the best times of our lives and I dont want it ruined so im going to stay happy im sick of writing negative posts so today im not! also thankyou for all the well wished it made me feel so special!
this is just a hello to everyone! and just a reminder of how lucky we all are to be in this thread! look after all your bubs!
Jen - just a shout out to you that you are doing so well in hospital, i couldnt do what your doing i whinge enough with one baby!
omg grub you make me laugh. i have installed DH as official deforestation expert too. It was so funny the other day when I made him bring up his trimmer to attend to my 'kini area. Imagine hospital bathroom, me not allowed to stand up, no proper shower curtain, and breakfast arriving.... ha. hilarious. and all because I wanted to be 'neat and tidy' for all the lovely internals I'm having. ridiculous!!!!!
murph - I totally second what you're saying. this forum is amazing, and frankly ladies, I don't know how I would have coped through some parts without you all. You hold a very special place in my heart
MHB - wow, what a great attitude. especially at a time like this. good on you. I was doing some reading today and thought of you. Apparently, it can be the case that wome pregnant women have a tendency to test positive for things while they're pregnant, but they're actually false positives. I read a story about a woman who tested HIV positive!! And had to go through the whole preg thinking she was HIV pos only to find out afterwards that it was a false positive. That's what I'm hoping for you
Greenslw - thinking of you and your DH. And I hope this weekend sees some movement at the baby room station. You're a strong woman, and I am sure you guys will get through this. But it will take some work, and it will take your DH taking some action. But like someone else said, perhaps you can seek some counselling or help to come up with some coping and stress relief strategies for yourself. My sister is a terrible and destructive alcoholic and al-anon (for family members) is so wonderful for me and my family. I am sure there would be something similar for other sorts of issues.
big shout out to you other ladies struggling with things at the moment too. there's lots of love here for you whenever you need it.
and to all of you sailing along - hoorah!! enjoy, relax and congrats!
afm, well, saw ob this morning. he said that these issues with the boys are likely to mean that the placentas are starting to fail. so we need to do daily monitoring to ensure bubs are still ok, and that has to be done in hosp, so no going home he also said that at this stage, the benefits of them remaining in my uterus outweigh the risks of prematurity at this gestation, but from next week (33 weeks) the balance starts to shift, and by 34 weeks they are very likely to thrive and develop better outside. So looks like I'll be delivering in about 2 weeks unless a miracle happens!!!
i feel a bit scared, a bit excited, and a big bit relieved that I know what's going on. does that make sense?
Jenc hoping those boys behave and you can hold onto them a little longer.
MHB - hope tomorrow goes well for you.
Grub - you may not want to hear this but I had painful contractions from 20 weeks with Campbell. They were enough to make me stop what I was doing until they passed. My OB actually told me that I would come early. I think I was asking how long he would let me go over and he was right Campbell came at 38 weeks.
AFM - thanks for all the sympathy for my demon child as it turns out he is really sick. On steriods to try and clear his sinouses as they are so blocked and had to pick him up form daycare today as he is now running a temp and has be sitting on my lap quietly all afternoon. I asked the doctor yesterday if he was right to go to daycare and he said fine no worries. That was a big load of blah. So staying at home with him until next wed. I have been having lots of pain lately, like tummy cramps but not so much cramps. So bad that at times I can hardly stand or walk, going to ring midwife in the morning and get some answers. When I spoke to OB about them she said get more calcium and iron it helps with cramps.
Hope everyone is doing well big good luck to those getting results tomorrow will be checking on you to make sure all is well.
glad you shared.
my thoughts are with you and 1 & 2
someone is looking after me.
All us family took up half the crowd and some were not as polite to the ref as you might imagine when our flesh and blood was sidelined 
the only downside to our time away was poor old DH had a bit of a setback but a few days at home with all things familiar and he is back on safe ground with the pups and me. we loved it though and it was mostly just what the doc ordered.
not sure if we'll have rum liek yours tho lol! and i agree about everyone feeling ok for the occassion "me rant'' ... we don't mind and if you need it, go right ahead.
he also said that at this stage, the benefits of them remaining in my uterus outweigh the risks of prematurity at this gestation, but from next week (33 weeks) the balance starts to shift, and by 34 weeks they are very likely to thrive and develop better outside. So looks like I'll be delivering in about 2 weeks unless a miracle happens!!!
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