Possums - I think we need to accept that people who have not experienced AC or LTTTC are a bit oblivious to us and the things that have happened to us to get here. My best friend could not understand why I wasn't shouting the pregnancy from the roof tops at 6 weeks along - even attempting to explain to her I could see she had no clue as to why I was cautious and a bit withdrawn from the rest of my normal life - and we're talking my best friend here not just someone I worked with.

I have people telling me not to worry so much about what I eat (I won't eat ham or salami - so sue me) and telling me that listeria is really rare blah blah blah. So what - I didn't go through what I went thru to risk even the slightest possibility that I will put the bub in danger especially not for the sake of a piece of processed pigs trotters, ears and tails.

The best advice I can give you is treat her and her pregnancy like elevator music. Ignore it. I mean really, who cares? What's important is you and your baby. You can be angry at the powers that be who decide who it will be easy for and who it will be hard for, but what it comes down to is that there is not a single thing you can do to change the way things are and you know what...When you have Hope in your arms I doubt you would change a single thing. Not trying to sound like I'm giving you tough love here, but focus on you and your baby. When she comes to tell you her preggo stories - go to your happy place in your mind. Think about Hope, nod politely, say yes no and ahhh at the appropriate places and remember that you have a natural miracle growing inside you. Also, you get to announce that you have managed what some of us will never be able to do and that is conceive naturally - it will be a great story to tell when you do finally get to make your announcement in 3 weeks time. :-)

Or you could just tell her to sod off and that you are not interested in hearing about it :-P

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