Chrissy, I thought I hadn't had any movement yet but on another thread a lady who has already had one child said for your first it's normally not until 18 weeks that you feel movement. That said, she said it's easy to mistake movement for wind (hee hee), a pulse or little bubbles. I have had all of these so maybe movement? My DP reckons he felt a kick the other day - wants me to tell my mum that he felt the first kick, but I think he's just trying to wind me up! No, the OB fee varies depending on the doctor. I didn't know it depended on claims and indemnity insurance (thanks GlennyC). My OB fee is $1600. I have read of others being $3000. It sucks because it used to be covered by Medicare and you could claim 80% of your out-of-pocket if you had reached the extended Medicare Safety Net, but thanks to Rudd he capped the fee and you can only get a little over $400 back! Sucks. Ebay sounds like fun. I had a friend visit today who refers to herself as Queen Ebay. She told me how many bargains there were to be had on Ebay. I must have a look at it soon.
AFM, I had a remedial massage today. It was great. My therapist recommends mandarin essential oil for minimising/preventing stretch marks. Must get me some of that. It smelt so nice.
KitKat, great news on your nuchal scan results. It is amazing to see how much the bub has developed in such a short time, isn't it? Hope you like your OB! Did you find out your baby's gender at your scan? If not, are you planning to at your morph scan?
Hi Paula, keep us informed as to what your OB says at your appointment tomorrow. Bubs wouldn't be engaged already, would she?
Ah, Brunette, I did not realize they could tell the gender that early! And funny, I was wondering about that since the images were so clear -- but for some dumb reason I didn't ask (I guess b/c I was under the impression it was too early), and I believe the radiology place's policy is not to mention it even if they see something unless you ask. Drats -- because while I know that a lot of people want it to be a surprise, my DH and I actually do want to find out. I guess now I'll have to wait another 6 weeks until the morph scan! Oh well . . .
PS. And funnily, after I e-mailed one of the 4D videos to my mom, she asked, "Did they tell you it's a boy? Because it looks like a boy . . ." and I told her it was too early, so she said she must have been confusing the umbilical cord for the boy bits. Funny, b/c I saw some things that I thought were boy bits too, but assumed they couldn't be that visible that early! Now I'm wondering!
KitKat~Gender cannot be found out prior to 16 weeks when the genitals become fully developed.The only way to find out before that time is by amniocentesis.You will need to wait til the 19-20 week morphology scan and even then,they can be wrong....ask LISE about it.She was told a girl then later at another scan,found out it was actually a boy!
2 Friends of mine,also were told one sex to give birth to the opposite!! I have had it checked 3 times to be sure from 19 weeks onwards and by 2 different obs,to confirm im having a girl and have seen it on the scan for myself up close..but i still worry i'll have a boy after it all.best of luck with your morph scan on finding out.
Hi all just coming in on the sex determination question. I have been told that if you are told it is a boy (when the genitals are fully formed of course after 16 weeks!!) that you are pretty much certain it is a boy but if they say a girl then hold off on buying pink as it could still be a boy. They can never be sure of a girl as those bits can hide and also be too small yet to see. A few of my friends have found out the hard way that lesson!!!
Hmmm, well we were told if we wanted to find out the sex of our twins at our 12-week scan, and we said yes. Now, without revealing the gender (because my DP would shoot me!) the sonographer said she was 90% sure with one but and 75% sure with the other one. Oh god, now I'm going to worry that what we think we have we really don't have! Our morph scan is less than two weeks away, so hopefully it will confirm what we were told at our 12-week scan.
Hi ladies please let me know of any changes that need to be made or if anyone has been missed. Liardoz i guessed your date counting on from where you are now let me know if it is wrong.
LondonMiss 16th July 2010 - It's a girl - Little Miss
Dusty 28th July 2010 - It's a ??? - ???
SonyaLouise ??.??.2010 - It's a ??? - ???
Seachange 2nd Aug 2010 - It's a ??? - Squishy
Paula 14th Aug 2010 - it's a girl – Tiana
Ninah 18th Aug 2010 - it's a surprise - McPeanut
Loula 19th Aug 2010 - it's a ???
Nix76 24th Aug 2010 - It's a ??? - Lil Bub
Emerald Star 26th Oct 2010 - It's a ??? - ???
Miss K 5th Nov 2010 - It's a ???
CK77 Dec 19th 2010 – it's a ??? - Munchkin
Brunette Dec 24th 2010 - it's a ??? - Double Trouble
Renee Dec 28th 2010 – it's a ??? - Little Bug
Glenny C Jan 5th 2011 - it's a ???
Leabie Jan 11th – it's a ???
KitKat Jan 19th - it's a ???
S’Rose Jan 20th – it's a ??? - Little Monkey
Juniper76 Feb 2nd - it's a ???
Maggie Feb 2nd -it's a ???
BJ*81
MissAma – LHB
Liardoz Feb 24th - it's a ???
Yogibear
Lisa B Mar 5th - it's a ???
Maggie Pie Mar 22nd - it's a ???
Our thoughts and prayers go to those beautiful mothers whose precious babies have been taken too soon.
Much loved & wanted son of Frosty'sMum, Benjamin born sleeping @ 14 weeks 4days. Our thoughts are with you.
Much loved & wanted daughter of Hippy Mum & Hippy Dad, Georgia Ariela taken too early from this earth 12-03-09 @ 22wk 6d
Much loved and wanted son of Chez67 & her DH, Ryan Patrick, born sleeping 17-03-09 @ 18wk 1d
HI Ladies,
I have been quietly lurking and watching - congrats to the new mums in here!
Have had MS as well as asthma which won't go away and seems to be worse because of the pregnancy so just keeping quiet. I haven't told anyone but my Mum, although my DH has told EVERYONE, including his boss which is kind of ridiculous.
Maggie Pie - welcome and congratulations
Yogi Bear - goodluck for tomorrow, I am sure you will be absolutely fine.
Hello to all the other lovely ladies out there xxx
AFM - Just got the info for my OB, his Planning Fee is $3200, worked out with all of Labor's changes to IVF and Obs fees making this baby cost us almost $20k by the time it arrives - What an insane amount of money to have to spend because I am infertile. I laugh when people tell me how much kids cost, my DD's school fees when she starts in a couple of years are nothing compared to IVF, so I feel as though we are so much better off now I know how much money we have instead of wondering if we have to find another $8k for an IVF cycle. I would love to ditch the Ob, but after all I have gone through to get pregnant, there is no way I am risking anything I don't have to!
No, still here, quietly grumbling and muttering to myself in the corner like a nutter. I had to go out for a walk earlier when I got upset at a text announcing the last of my preg yoga group bar me to give birth which really made me feel upset. And I had to give myself a talking to, as naturally I am delighted for her, and just being a selfish cow. DH thinks I'm mad, a baby on the inside cannot scream being his thinking. I'm being driven mad by people asking if anything has happened yet. Very tempted to print "no it bloody hasn't" in 72 font red letters and stick it on the front door to stop people fussing. Much as I love my mother, and I do, dearly, I cannot imagine anything less likely to contribute to my early labour relaxation plans than having a jetlagged fussing Mother in a small house. Particularly one who isn't in tune with my yoga/ TENS/ attempted positive but quiet approach to the whole thing.
Welcome MaggiePie - FX for a happy and healthy 9mths.
YogiBear - how exciting, your scan is tomorrow!! You get to see that little blob, it's a great moment, make sure you ask for a photo printout to stick on the fridge!!
Brunette, yep lying in bed just a few nights ago, DH thought he felt a pulse but figured it was mine (didn't think my pulse could be felt an inch below my belly button but that's what I put it down to) - so could have been baby?
KitKat - glad all went well with your NT scan, that's got to be a weight off your mind - how good that you saw 4D!
Lairdoz, did you have MS with DD too? I've been lucky and MS skipped me, instead I have the achy back, the leg cramps and skin that doesn't know whether it wants to be pimply one week or clear the next. I guess I shouldn't complain about my P&M fee after reading what yours is!
AFM, morphology scan this Thursday arvo, CANNOT WAIT! Time seems to go so quick when you're pregnant (except in the case of LondonMiss who probably feels like she's watching paint dry), 4.5mths already, WTEWYE tells me that baby is the size of a mango inside my rockmelon sized uterus. Speaking of rocks, every so often (normally when I wake up a sparrow's fart-oclock) I am assuming that the rock hard thing in my lower belly is the uterus. It's hard!??
Thanks for making me feel so welcome everyone. It is great to be able to talk to people about this, as we have decided not to tell family and friends yet, but I am the type of person who can't keep a secret!
LondonMiss - great to hear you are using TENS, I used it for my first labour and it was effective for many hours, until the pain got worse then I used the gas. The good thing about it is that you can move it to where the pain is - on your back or tummy and you can turn it up with each contraction. Hope the waiting goes quickly for you. Sometimes we get so impatient waiting for bub to come we forget to saviour that time when they are still tucked up nice and warm, as once they come out it gets alot busier - that's what I did for my DD, then for DS I was determined to enjoy the last few weeks and he came early!
Brunette - I remember feeling the first movement at 18 weeks exactly with my DD. I was a bit unsure at the time if that's what I was feeling, as I had never had that type of 'pulsing' wind movement before. I don't think I could feel movement on the outside for quite a while after that though... It's very exciting isn't it when you do get that first movement - makes it feel so real!
Yogi Bear - thanks for your kind words. I hope the 7 week scan goes really well. It will be so special to see your little bub. Let us know how it goes.
AFM - went to Dr yesterday and got referral for blood tests, urinalysis etc. She said she would call if there was a problem with tests otherwise will go back in a month.
Hope everyone is going well, and by the way what is this 'planning fee' you are all talking about. I will be going to GP and then midwife clinic so don't see OB privately but it sounds ridiculously expensive!!!!
Londonmiss~ I really do hope that your bub comes before Friday,when mine should make its grand entrance via the sunroof at 8 am ish. I dont want you to be upset with me going before you.Im sending you HUGE labour vibes,so that im not in trouble.LOL. You do seem to be handling things very well though.Its understandable you are emotional and over it but i think your doing great.xx
As for me im counting down the days til Friday.As far as i know im to be at hospital at 7am and am second on the list.I will get a confirmation call on Thursday and i also have to head in on Thursday too,so i can get my blood grouped and held(in case of transfusion)...(no wonder im scared).
Yesterday i was having a really bad day,crying and being angry and moody but today after a long chat with the higher power via prayer,ive woken feeling more positive.Before that i was so scared of things going wrong,that i was focusing more on the operation being scary,than the gift of my baby.My fear had clouded the positives and the real reason behind the whole thing.
Im still scared but am focusing on everything going well,and being positive that this birth will be much easier and less stressful than my sons birth which frankly was a nightmare!
Well im off now.Heading to the post office and then might go for a drive to get out of the house and enjoy some sun.Dh is working night shift so maybe he will take me.My belly barely fits behind the steering wheel.Oh and i might check out what our car looks like with the installed baby seat in the back.Dh went to a fitting station and had it fitted yesterday but i stayed on the couch all day so i havnt seen it.We have our "baby on board" sign too,which dh said is on the window.cute.
Have a great day girls.xox
Belated hello and welcome to you MaggiePie! You're right - thanks to the medicare changes OB = ridiculously expensive. We'll be paying $2750 for our management fee and I think we get something like $450 back from medicare.
LondonMiss, I promise not to ask you how it's going. I will just wait for you to tell us the good news! I can imagine it must be frustrating to be couped up in a small house with everyone anxiously awaiting the big event. Can you let her know you need some "me" time and shut yourself in your room for as long as you need whenever you're getting tense?
Lairdoz, I've been too scared to work out what this bub will have cost us. This was our 5th IVF, so it's been a big investment if we include the entire TTC process. Not to mention that DH has gone into "nesting" mode. New fence last week, a quote this morning to fix the roof (which has needed work since we moved in 4.5 years ago) and he intends to add a (large) covered patio before the year is done.
Still laying low here a little. Had b/w taken for the NT scan this morning. NT scan is next Tuesday. We see the OB for the first time on Friday, which seems an eternity away. I keep telling myself there's no reason to expect anything has gone wrong in the last 1.5 weeks since the last scan, but I can't help but worry. Work has settled down now that the project-from-hell is finished (hopefully - I ended up having to do it twice last week). I've got an urgent task sitting in my inbox (boss wants it by 11am, which is 25min away), but he's only sent me half the data so I can't finish it.
I'm trying to keep up with everyone here, but my brain just doesn't seem to absorb information at the moment and I have to re-read everyone's posts about 3 times, which I feel bad about. So, sorry about the limited personals again.
Thankyou girls for your well wishes.I just spoke to the hospital and they said i will be fine and that emergency cesareans are alot more difficult/traumatic than a planned one,so that has made me feel more at ease about tomorrow. I went there this morning and had my blood taken (in case of transfusion) which they said never happens (but im sure they have 'some' that require it).
I came home,had my shower to wash my hair,shave legs and trim bikini line,tried to get rid of my toothache which has been killing me(as a result of my block of choccie a day habit) and am now trying to rest and relax.We have to be there at 6AM!!! I havent been anywhere at 6 am in my life,other than bed.Oh maybe when i was young id be leaving a club in the city with girlfriends but that was ages ago.Anyhow,i am now mentally and emotionally preparing myself for tomorrow. I will try and get access to a computer as soon as i can to let you all know how things go and whether my 3x confirmed baby girl IS actually a baby girl.LOL.xox
Time seems to go so quick when you're pregnant (except in the case of LondonMiss who probably feels like she's watching paint dry), 4.5mths already, WTEWYE tells me that baby is the size of a mango inside my rockmelon sized uterus. Speaking of rocks, every so often (normally when I wake up a sparrow's fart-oclock) I am assuming that the rock hard thing in my lower belly is the uterus. It's hard!??
You do seem to be handling things very well though.Its understandable you are emotional and over it but i think your doing great.xx
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