Thank you so much ladies. Your support really does help put my mind at ease.

BW I knew you would be in on this topic. It's a toughie isn't it? I agree that people just don't seem to think of having "A child" they always say "having children". It's as though you must automatically have more than one. Having one child is NOT the same as not having children!!!

Wow Det your story gave me a shiver. I am almost fearful that if we were to have a miracle surprise bub I wouldnt know how to think! We have decided to sell/pass on all her baby things so it would be like starting all over if it did happen. Reality check reminds me it is almost impossible. I am so lucky that DH had said he was happy to go either way, it was up to me to stop when ready. Although, that did make it all my decision but also easier to say stop and not worry that I was putting a stop to his wants.

Holly, those medicare changes are really what made the difference to us! We had decided to try again before we heard about the changes. Then we had two cycles with no luck so we felt a bit panicked to keep going this year. The pressure didnt help at all and that led to talks about what if it doesnt work this time and will we still try after the money changes. I wonder how many other couples will end up doing the same as us? I'm sure next year will tell. Thank you so much for your reasuring words about Luke being an only child. That helps so much! I have recieved comments from ignorant people saying " You HAVE to have more than one, it's CRUEL to not give her a sibling!" and that really did get me thinking.

Slowly but surely getting my head around things now I hope. I'm sure it will be an ongoing thing though, the jealousy and the "what ifs".