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Dory - Sounds like you had a beautiful day, just right for you and DH which is exactly what you needed!
So, i will try to keep up a bit more now, have been so stressed and trying not to dwell on BB too much, but i am going to try and relax a bit more now and be positive!! xx
Sparkles so glad your scan went well, isnt is just a relief. I also had another scan yesterday just to put my mind at ease and everything was just perfect. Hope you can start to relax a bit more now and start to enjoy Dory im glad you and DH had a lovely day yesterday for your beautiful girls 1st anniversary.
Welcome maggie and congratulations on your pregnancy. Youve come to the right place for all the support you need and just to vent your fears as we all know exactly what your feeling and hopefully we ca help you to get through it relatively stress free (never going to be completely stress free though unfortunately) Tina yep i seen your photos on facebook and you dont look big at all, looks so cute. Good luck with your 'retirement pad' it sounds awesome
Congratulations littleones on the birth of hayley michelle, hopefully the BF starts to get easier for you both
AFM requested another scan yesterday at my docs appt to put my mind at ease and it was so awesome. Bub was bouncing around like crazy. Im thinking of getting a 3D ultrasound done but dont know if there are any in my area. If anyone knows where camperdown, victoria is do you know if there is anywhere near me that does it. Or even in Geelong??
Take care all
sorry i've beein mia since my last post, i needed some family time after my rant.
Just wanted to say a quick thank you for all your support, it's lovely knowing we can come on here and be completely honestly, i was a little worried how it was be taken, which is why i haven't been on here in a while, bit scared you might all think i was this horrible woman....
Anyway first scan tomorrow, yay, very excited.....
HPL - this is the safe place know that whatever you say it's safe to be totally honest and speak your feelings, if you can't do it anonymously in here, where can you do it? Enjoy your first scan tomorrow! Drink in the excitement and enjoy every second of it!
Maggie 355 - thankyou. I don't wnat to seem arrogant, but I have been through a lot. So often I almost minimise it. Just quickly here's my history. I suppose I could put it in my signature but for some reason I can't do that. July 08 m/c 8 weeks blighted ovum, 23 Feb 2009 birth of Amelia, extremely premature at 21 weeks gest and too frail to survive, 28 July 2009, birth of Nicholas at 14 weeks gest, our wee man and 30 August 2009 birth of Sophie at 19 weeks gest, too young to survive. Nicholas and Sophie were twins. Each of my little ones was born alive. It seems I go into premature labour spontaneously. The birth of Amelia, as heartbreaking as it was, was a joyful and defining moment of my life. I am truly blessed to have been given the gift of a beautiful daughter, and son and daughter. I have held each of my babies and loved them completely. I never expected that, especially not in such heartbreaking circumstances.
I so totally understand about being on tenterhooks, and just waiting for the complications. I have already had a few, and its hard, but somehow, I am able to find some peace with the pg. But every complication renews the fear. I suppose we all find our own ways to cope. Glad you got to see your little one! It's pretty awesome huh? My tip? Try not to worry to much ( I know mission impossible!) and if you can each day be thankful for the miracle that you have right now, right at this moment. For me I find it helps put the fear to the back of my mind and not the front of all of the time. Every pg is different?
HPL - we are so close in dates it's amazing. Glad you got to see bubs, it is just the coolest. Go and revel in the miracle.
Hi to everyone else. I am not feeling very talkative. Hope you are all going ok. Sticky vibes.
Dory..... Im really not quite sure what to say. 'Sorry' just seems so terribly inadequate. I read your response a couple of days ago and have been pondering you all weekend. What I find the most amazing is how positive you are. When I read back through the posts you have made and the advice you have given others you are still able to appreciate the little things and look on the bight side. After going through so much, I think you cetainly are an amzing person. I know that from now on, in my moments of doubt, I will definately be thinking of you and your postive outlook.
I've no idea if you are a religious person, but Im sending out lots of prayers/happy thoughts that this time your baby will be strong and healthy enough to survive.
Thanks for sharing your story with me. Its sounds as though you have really made peace with what has happened to your beautiful babies, for which Im glad. I really hope things go well for you this time and Im sending you lots of love and hugs.
Maggie - thankyou, for your kinds words and prayers. You made me change the way I think too. I finally mustered the courage to change my signature and include my angels. So thankyou.
Milly 5- oh sweetie. Such a hard road. Good luck for Saturday - only 2 sleeps to go. Sorry you had food poisioning or a gastro bug.
Sparkles- good work you brave thing on booking the appointment. It takes a lot of courage to actually pick up the phone huh?. It's only 2 weeks - just like being in the 2WW!!! The time will fly, honest. Will be thinking of you and hopefully you're not going too much around the twist!
Bonham - poor thing. Are you able to get any relief? Are you keeping anything down? Have you got some gastrolyte or gatorade handy? I hope you feel like you can cope soon. How are along are you now?
AFM - 11 weeks and 1 day. Amazingly cool. M/S seems to have mostly eased for me. Still comes and goes, but usually only once a day and it's much better than the all day nausea I had. I was so engrossed in BB that I delayed eating. Instead of intense just about to vomit nausea I just have some pretty bad shakes. The shakes will pass as the food digests. How cool is that? Almost like a breakthrough! The next question is whether I will be able to resist having some icecream, as I am still craving a sugar hit after my blood sugar crashed. Thing is on so many levels a sugar hit so soo bad, but OMG I love icecream.
dory: thanks for the ideas, but its not throwing up thats making me feel crap it's just having the nausea stay around all day, i'm still eating/drinking as normal as can me. I'm 9weeks 4 days today.
hi all. I hope you're well. I think I'm updated on the posts, but may have missed a page.
dory - it sounds like stopping work has been a huge benefit for you. your stories of loss are heartbreaking, but the courage and dignity to try agan is awe inspiring
sparkle - I understand the stress leading up to the scan. good luck with it. we had the dr turn the screen off so we couldn't see anything until he checked bub was alive. the relief lasted about 2 weeks before other fears reared their head again.
milly - i still check the TP too I don't think the fear ever stops, it's how we manage it that counts.
hope everyone else is well
not much going on here. still tired every afternoon. yesterday I could feel the bump (small and quite low), today i can't but my boobs seem bigger, so I'm taking that as a good sign. I'm 15wks tomorrow. I've become quite stressed reading a few loss stories recently, so I need to work out a way to manage that. I'm thinking of counselling or working with a doula or someone. We've also ordered a blood pressure monitor so I can keep an eye on my anxiety levels. And we're off to the baby show on the weekend to do some research and hopefully get some bargains
Will try to keep up, but only have time to come during work hours and I really need to get some work done - haven't done much today
sounds like there's lots of nausea going on!
I have now hit "2nd tri" and nausea and vommies are still going strong!
As well as the ginger beer, ginger cordial, etc, I have found for me that some quick "fix its" are: potato chips (recommended by my friend the nurse), and lemonade. Also, I am wearing "seabands" the wrist bands that kids often wear for motion sickness - hasn't quite eased the nausea, but has helped with the urgent projectile vomitting!
It's sad how we are all somewhat quite scared and/or just hanging out for our scans, whereas other people just get to cruise along and enjoy their pregnancies in blissful ignorance.
because we all deserve it! It's going to be a long ride!
Tashy - hope you scored some bargains at the show! Thanks for your kind words. I am not sure if it;s courage or just sheer stubborn determination?
Milly - sorry to hear that you are still so sick. Potato chips helped me a lot when I had unexplained and ongoing nausea a few years ago. I used to think it was a combination of the fat/carbs/salt but I read somewhere the other day that potatoes have vit b12 in them, which is suposed to help relieve nausea.
Maggie - if you can't complain here where can you complain? Besides nausea and vomitting are not pleasant, for anyone. We just try to convince ourselves that it is something positive to help us get through.
I'm Emma, I have a 3yo DD (Gaby), and have had 4 1st trimester losses (10w4d in 2001, 5w4d in 2005, 8w0d in 2007 & 6w1d in 2008)... I am now 25 weeks pregnant with another little girl (Emersyn), and am starting to feel more confident about this pregnancy, though it hasn't really been straightforward, due to a couple of high risk factors (epilepsy, episodes of random bleeding)... Right now I'm feeling my baby girl kicking very hard, so that is really reassuring for me... I've decided this is going to be my last pregnancy, because I cannot handle the anxiety of pregnancy again... everyday is a battle for me, and it's not good for me, or my daughter... I have an anxiety disorder, and pregnancy makes it 50,000x worse! I'll be having a tubal ligation when Emersyn is born (I'll be having a repeat c/s with her, so they'll do it at the time)... My loss in 2007 was an ectopic & I lost my right fallopian tube, so there is only one tube for them to tie anyway, lol.
anyway... hello to everyone, I hope your pregnancies are progressing well!
HI ladies,
here for my "weekly pop in".
Yep, I have decided that I just can't do it after work, so my chance to catch up with all my BB is on my day off!
Dory - I was thinking of you yesterday, how did it go? and how soon do you get your results? For what it's worth, I completely understand your decision, and I am keeping everything crossed for you!!!!
Oh and the emotional eater - me too
Elsielouise - yes MS is supposed to be a good sign, my GP thought it was fantastic how sick I was LOL!
Snugglybean - mm the work decision, I know that one, we are wondering the same thing. I have decided to stick it out (though I do wish I'd taken time off in weeks 9-11 when the MS was at it's absolute most horrible). We could do without the money in the short -medium term, but I will need to go back at some point, and if I leave then I might not have a job to go back to. So at this stage I am thinking of starting mat leave about 6 weeks before due date, and if things get too much, cutting back my hours. I have already said I can no longer do the long drives as they really wipe me out.
And the first trimester - well, I didn't enjoy it, I didn't get to feel happy and excited, just scared sh%#*less all the time. And it did seem to drag on forever, so I do hear you when you say 'how will I get through this' - the answer though, is you just do. And then at somepoint you will begin to feel excited and happy. For me it has taken to almost now. I hadn't even realised I'd entered the second trimester, because I was still too busy panicking!
Welcome Kermit, and congratulations!!!! I think it's normal to feel a bit conflicted, and I do beleive that you can grieve your angel while welcoming and being excited about your new bub, they are both valid emotions
Emma - :wave:
Millyd - another Milly!! :wave:
Thanks TK for sharing Bonham's news! Yay Bonham!!!
AFM - well now 16 weeks and I can finally say that this week the MS is starting to settle. I still start the day with a vommie, but I can cope with that, and usually have a bout of nausea mid morning & mid afternoon (good excuse to have biccies and potato chips for mornng/afternoon tea), but apart from that, I haven't had too many other vommies (unless I've been for a long drive), and, the even better news, is that I can eat! still quite plain food, but "food glorious food" none-the-less! There are still a few things that I can't come at (eg BBQ meat - my DH fave), but my DH and I have eaten dinner together all week now - the first time since about 6 weeks I think! And my vitamins stay down - I hope spud can still make use of them and it's not too late!
Can certainly identify with all the sickness, and although I wouldn't wish it on anyone, its so nice to know I'm not alone. So easy to feel that way when you're layed on the bathroom floor at all hours of the day and night. I am finding the nausea so difficult - I feel really bad complaining about it as i so desperately want my baby, plus I know that if it wasn't there i would be so scared about what was wrong. Just can't win! Its so awful though!! I have consumed so much ginger recently. the taste alone now makes me want to vomit! Argh....
Miss K - Im so sorry about your loss. My misscarriage was much earlier than yours (10 weeks) and I think we waited about 2 months before trying again. At the time we recieved lots of advice to wait 3 months, but I read recently that's not neccesary. Before worrying too much about that, I would get yourself emotionally ready first... its such a long journey. Good luck.
For everyone else, Im sending you lots of happy thoughts. Hope all the impending scans go well and the sickness is the perfect balance of just enough to stop you worrying, but not so much to be ghastly unpleasant. Sending of lots of hugs.
MissK sorry to hear of your loss. My mc too was alot earlier than yours (7 weeks) but lots of different people will give you differing advice. My doctor said to wait one cycle, some say 3 months and others say just wheneva you are ready, emotionally & physically. I think unless there is a medical reason why you cant straight away i think that would be fine. Hope that helps hun
I am back from my holidays!! Holidays were great - just visited some friends and had a nice break, but now it's back to reality and work
Sorry, not too many persies, because there is just TOO much to catch up on, but I did read all the posts.
Yay for all to good news,
hugs for all the not so good,
and welcome to the new ladies
Congrats LittleOnes!!
AFM - well, I had a couple of scares while I was away - more like over-reaction, but at the time, I found it quite scary.
I had a day where the MS was not too bad, I thought it was finishing up, so I actually ate some real food, and then that night I woke to horrible cramps. Of course I thought the worst, until about half an hour later I had the runs. And of course I thought the even worse, that I had given my bub foodpoisining, and well, you can imagine the rest. It took me two days of morning sickness to realise that all was not doom and gloom.
But then, two days after that I had a spot - not even as much as that started with m/c, but just a spot. so of course all the doubts from the couple of days before came back, and then when I thought my MS was easing I really was convinced of the worst. Fortunately the friend I was staying with was a nurse, so she was very reassuring, and also quite tolerant and understanding of my paranoia. And thankfully MS returned with a vengence, and STILL hasn't left yet. Yesterday (the day after we drove home) I spent the entire day on the lounge, struggling to even keep water down. I have learnt that already, this bub gets motion sickness - whenever I have a long drive or a scan, I can guarantee that the next day I will be SUPER-ILL! (as in not just your regular morning sickness).
I have my NT scan on Sat, so am just hanging out till then, because even despite my wonderful friend's reassurance, I am still convinced of the worst! (oh, and yes, still checking the loo paper!)
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know that whatever you say it's safe to be totally honest and speak your feelings, if you can't do it anonymously in here, where can you do it?
Enjoy your first scan tomorrow! Drink in the excitement and enjoy every second of it!
I don't think the fear ever stops, it's how we manage it that counts.
still quite plain food, but "food glorious food" none-the-less! There are still a few things that I can't come at (eg BBQ meat - my DH fave), but my DH and I have eaten dinner together all week now - the first time since about 6 weeks I think!
Sending of lots of hugs.
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