Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss June 2010

[Hope.Positive.Love]

been in hiding for a while ladies...

Just wanted to comment on Teagm : when we first found out we were pg again we were terrified of losing her we didn't end up telling our parents until we were 8wks, then our brothers and sisters at 10weeks. We periodically told close friends from 14 - 16weeks... But it really depends on how you and your parents feel and when you want to tell people. Our friends and family were really supportive and weren't offended that we held off telling them until much later, our first pg we told everyone and anyone who would listen that we were expecting, so this time round we wanted to savour the moment for ourselves just in case anything did happen...

Reading the posts my heart goes out to you ladies who have been given not so great news of late.......
A huge congrats to all the new mummies....

AFM: Starting to feel the pressures of full time work and part time study as I get bigger and further along, was really hoping I could stick it out until Aug with full-time work, fingers crossed I can.. Physically bubs and I are good, but I know I need to slow down, I'm just not the type of person who knows how to, that's my biggest problem.... Seems that bubs is measuring anywhere between 27 - 29wks these days - wish they could give me a better idea of when she's due, I've had so many different dates I can't keep up, so we're just saying she'll be born in Sept sometime.... its frustrating coz i think if I finish work on the 6th Sept, she could be born that weekend which doesnt leave me much time to relax before the birth, but if i do stop then and bubs doesnt come until the 25th or something I just know I will go insane waiting for her to be born.... GGGRRRRR frustrating.....


I'll try and post more often time just seems to get away from me, I read posts all the time and then half reply but have to go off and cook dinner or shower then forget and by then my DH has usually closed the computer down lol...

BIG BELLY RUBS TO ALL!!!

[Tegam]

Thanks Hope. Positive.love! I think ill keep it to myself for a bit longer! Just feels easier that way!

[millyd]

oh my goodness my beauties for some reason I have not been receieving the emails to prompt me here I have 2.5 pages to catch up on...persies to come love and happiness and stacks of sticky vibes and snuggly bubbys all round xxxxxxx

[Alice]

Just a quick visit from me to the lovely ladies here - sending you lots of

KitFaerie - I know you are lurking...have you booked your scan yet?? Thinking of you x

Tegam!! Lovely to see your name in here after all that you went through at the beginning of the year - hugs to you!

MurryCod - are you enjoying things a little more since the scan or are those cramps still giving you grief?

Dory, Audax, Possum and all the other familiar names here - hello!!

[milly5]

Hi ladies!!

Tegam - we didn't really tell people officially until 16 weeks. We had told MIL & FIL at about 9weeks as they had come to help us with some heavy work - which of course I didn't do, so we told them why, but also that we didn't really want to tell people yet, which they were quite understanding.
I was vommiting quite a bit at work, so I think some people may have guessed, but I didn't tell them until about 16 weeks. And only then becasue I was showing!
I didn't officially tell my boss until about two weeks ago, though I had unofficially told her at 16 weeks because other people knew.
It's hard, because on one hand you do want to tell - even if only for the support should something go wrong, but on the other hand, I didn't want to tell, because I didn't want to talk about it incase I jinxed it.
It took me a while to get my head around that I was pg.
Then I got that I was pg, but couldn't quite get that there was a baby in there, IYKWIM (I know, sounds silly).
Then it was there is a baby in there, but that doesn't mean one will come out.....
It's really only now, this last couple of weeks, probably the last week or two, that I really feel like yes there is a baby in there, and yes there is a happy end to come! And now, I have an awful lot of nesting to catch up on!
I just wanted to send hugs - to all of you - and say yes it is hard to feel excited in the beginning. But I don't feel guilty for not being excited, just disappointed that there is a lot of happiness that I missed out on that I needn't have.

Angelfish - it is hard for partners who - I must say, while they have their own grief experience, they just don't get it - you can't blame yourself for what happened, so it is wrong to think that you caused it in anyway. Tell your b/f that that is not helpful!

Possummagic - I don't know anything about the progesterone, but am keeping everything crossed for you and hoping that your acorn sticks.

Dory - you didn't tell us about your hair??

HPL - you sound like me LOL. I am due Sept 10 and am working up to end August (I don't want to sit around waiting too long, but also, don't want Spud to arrive on my first day home! I have told Spud that while I am very anxious to meet him/her, I don't want to see him/her before September, so not until at least 1/9. (Oh and definately out by the 17th!) LOL. I am told that they can hear at this stage.... just not sure if they have a good grasp of language and time!!
And, my DH does that with the computer too!!!

Hi other Milly!

Hi Alice!

[angelfish]

Dory: no my partner told me that while he was yelling at me he is very uncompationate he does not understand that i am really tired right now and can't keep up with cleaning up after him and when his kids come to see him every three weeks he has been calling lazy.

My Dr is the one that has said that emotional stress will not cause a m/c that its the physcial stress is what i have to worry about due to me having a heart problem i have to worry about my heart rate getting to high or my blood suger getting to high. This baby is what i am worry about not my partner right now if i have to do this alone i will. His kids are bad last time i was pg and they found out his daughter who is 10 and wieghs 109 lbs jump on my lap so i have to worry about them. But enough of me rambling

good luck to everyone who has a scan coming up or a dr appt.
to everyone else you all are in my thoughts and prayers

[Tegam]

Tegam!! Lovely to see your name in here after all that you went through at the beginning of the year - hugs to you!

Thanks for remembering me Alice, yes it was a horrible start to the year but maybe a happy ending! Hi again!.

Hi ladies!!

Tegam - we didn't really tell people officially until 16 weeks. We had told MIL & FIL at about 9weeks as they had come to help us with some heavy work - which of course I didn't do, so we told them why, but also that we didn't really want to tell people yet, which they were quite understanding.
I was vommiting quite a bit at work, so I think some people may have guessed, but I didn't tell them until about 16 weeks. And only then becasue I was showing!
I didn't officially tell my boss until about two weeks ago, though I had unofficially told her at 16 weeks because other people knew.
It's hard, because on one hand you do want to tell - even if only for the support should something go wrong, but on the other hand, I didn't want to tell, because I didn't want to talk about it incase I jinxed it.
It took me a while to get my head around that I was pg.
Then I got that I was pg, but couldn't quite get that there was a baby in there, IYKWIM (I know, sounds silly).
Then it was there is a baby in there, but that doesn't mean one will come out.....
It's really only now, this last couple of weeks, probably the last week or two, that I really feel like yes there is a baby in there, and yes there is a happy end to come! And now, I have an awful lot of nesting to catch up on!
I just wanted to send hugs - to all of you - and say yes it is hard to feel excited in the beginning. But I don't feel guilty for not being excited, just disappointed that there is a lot of happiness that I missed out on that I needn't have.

I could not have said that all better myself, that is exactly how i feel. Thank you for taking the time to share!

Dory: no my partner told me that while he was yelling at me he is very uncompationate he does not understand that i am really tired right now and can't keep up with cleaning up after him and when his kids come to see him every three weeks he has been calling lazy.

My Dr is the one that has said that emotional stress will not cause a m/c that its the physcial stress is what i have to worry about due to me having a heart problem i have to worry about my heart rate getting to high or my blood suger getting to high. This baby is what i am worry about not my partner right now if i have to do this alone i will. His kids are bad last time i was pg and they found out his daughter who is 10 and wieghs 109 lbs jump on my lap so i have to worry about them. But enough of me rambling

good luck to everyone who has a scan coming up or a dr appt.
to everyone else you all are in my thoughts and prayers

Sounds like you dont have a lot of support. Hugs honey and remember you can only do your best!


AFM! 12 weeks today... 3 sleeps til scan!

[luna moth]

woohoo Tegam for 3 sleeps til scan! Yaaaaay! It's weird, that feeling at 12 weeks, do you reckon? Liek you know you've hit a milestone, but until the scan, you kinda haven't? Both times, I have loved the quiet achievement of it.

milly - my birthday is September 17th. It is a GREAT day to be born. 10th is also quite good really. 10/9/10. That would be a great birth date.

I am SO tired! Slowly catching up on the housework I couldn't do while spewy. Can't quite face cleaning the oven though... might wait til mat leave for that. 5 weeks to go!

[KitFaerie]

I have such good news, lol. Had my scan yesterday and Tiger is just perfect, was measuring smack bang on 11 weeks and 1 day and heartrate of 165. The tech said we had an extremely healthy baby cos 'sick babies don't dance like that' LOL! Tiger was jigging around like anything, DH was talking to him to see if Tiger would move when he spoke. And it appears we may be having a little boy! The tech said he wouldn't count on it though, cos girl bits can be enlarged to look like boy bits, but when he looked at Tiger's feet, Tiger did a full on leg spread and showed off his bits, and from side on there definitely appeared to be a little bit of a willy. I feel so ridiculously incredibly relieved, keep looking at the pics, it reminds me of getting the BFP and I kept looking at the stick, like the baby lived in the stick and not in my belly! MS is starting to leave the building too, I actually wanted food today, just a cheese and tomato toastie, but I ate it and then didn't feel sick. Slowly starting to sink in that I'm gonna be bringing this baby home.

[Tegam]

KIT Are you in a bellybuddies group yet? When are you due? We may be just a bit apart of the groups! So happy for you and now you know its time for a TICKER!

[Hoping]

Possum magic - my thoughts go out to you in this difficult time. I agree with the others this forum is a great place to express your fears and concerns we've all been there before so please if you need to post please do.

Kit - congrats on your exciting news its so great to get the all clear at that first big scan. My husband was so excited when we found out our first child was a little boy, i think his exact words to the tech was 'is that a willy?'