Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss June 2010

[angelfish]

Dory: no my partner told me that while he was yelling at me he is very uncompationate he does not understand that i am really tired right now and can't keep up with cleaning up after him and when his kids come to see him every three weeks he has been calling lazy.

My Dr is the one that has said that emotional stress will not cause a m/c that its the physcial stress is what i have to worry about due to me having a heart problem i have to worry about my heart rate getting to high or my blood suger getting to high. This baby is what i am worry about not my partner right now if i have to do this alone i will. His kids are bad last time i was pg and they found out his daughter who is 10 and wieghs 109 lbs jump on my lap so i have to worry about them. But enough of me rambling

good luck to everyone who has a scan coming up or a dr appt.
to everyone else you all are in my thoughts and prayers

[Tegam]

Tegam!! Lovely to see your name in here after all that you went through at the beginning of the year - hugs to you!

Thanks for remembering me Alice, yes it was a horrible start to the year but maybe a happy ending! Hi again!.

Hi ladies!!

Tegam - we didn't really tell people officially until 16 weeks. We had told MIL & FIL at about 9weeks as they had come to help us with some heavy work - which of course I didn't do, so we told them why, but also that we didn't really want to tell people yet, which they were quite understanding.
I was vommiting quite a bit at work, so I think some people may have guessed, but I didn't tell them until about 16 weeks. And only then becasue I was showing!
I didn't officially tell my boss until about two weeks ago, though I had unofficially told her at 16 weeks because other people knew.
It's hard, because on one hand you do want to tell - even if only for the support should something go wrong, but on the other hand, I didn't want to tell, because I didn't want to talk about it incase I jinxed it.
It took me a while to get my head around that I was pg.
Then I got that I was pg, but couldn't quite get that there was a baby in there, IYKWIM (I know, sounds silly).
Then it was there is a baby in there, but that doesn't mean one will come out.....
It's really only now, this last couple of weeks, probably the last week or two, that I really feel like yes there is a baby in there, and yes there is a happy end to come! And now, I have an awful lot of nesting to catch up on!
I just wanted to send hugs - to all of you - and say yes it is hard to feel excited in the beginning. But I don't feel guilty for not being excited, just disappointed that there is a lot of happiness that I missed out on that I needn't have.

I could not have said that all better myself, that is exactly how i feel. Thank you for taking the time to share!

Dory: no my partner told me that while he was yelling at me he is very uncompationate he does not understand that i am really tired right now and can't keep up with cleaning up after him and when his kids come to see him every three weeks he has been calling lazy.

My Dr is the one that has said that emotional stress will not cause a m/c that its the physcial stress is what i have to worry about due to me having a heart problem i have to worry about my heart rate getting to high or my blood suger getting to high. This baby is what i am worry about not my partner right now if i have to do this alone i will. His kids are bad last time i was pg and they found out his daughter who is 10 and wieghs 109 lbs jump on my lap so i have to worry about them. But enough of me rambling

good luck to everyone who has a scan coming up or a dr appt.
to everyone else you all are in my thoughts and prayers

Sounds like you dont have a lot of support. Hugs honey and remember you can only do your best!


AFM! 12 weeks today... 3 sleeps til scan!

[luna moth]

woohoo Tegam for 3 sleeps til scan! Yaaaaay! It's weird, that feeling at 12 weeks, do you reckon? Liek you know you've hit a milestone, but until the scan, you kinda haven't? Both times, I have loved the quiet achievement of it.

milly - my birthday is September 17th. It is a GREAT day to be born. 10th is also quite good really. 10/9/10. That would be a great birth date.

I am SO tired! Slowly catching up on the housework I couldn't do while spewy. Can't quite face cleaning the oven though... might wait til mat leave for that. 5 weeks to go!

[possum magic]

Hi everyone, sorry but not feeling up to persies. Still bleeding heavily and have had a number of clots now (sorry if TMI). Dr was able to see a clot on my scan earlier this week (away from where baby is) so it is possible i suppose that that is what is passing now but i think it's far more likely that i have miscarried. I won't know for sure until i see my OB on Wed. I don't see any point in going earlier. I'm hoping that if i give it a bit more time it will be over one way or the other; either the m/c will be complete and i can move on or the bleeding will stop and baby will be fine. I just can't bear this 'in between' of feeling doomed but baby still being there (if it's all just going to finish anyway, like last time). So i'm hoping that if i wait til Wed it will have reached some sort of resolution.

Dory, think i'll hold off on that ticker a bit longer after all

I feel like i don't want to post too much and bring everyone down so i'll let you know how it goes on Wednesday but maybe just lurk until then.

Mummy of 4: thanks for sharing your experience. It's good to know that some bleeding can be ok in the end, even if it goes on for a bit.

Good luck to everyone having scans the next few days.

[Hope.Positive.Love]

possum magic: my heart goes out to you sweetie... I have everything humanly possibly crossed for you, this could be some common bleeding and nothing at all like mo4... I know it's hard right now but try and stay positive, have all your support people around you and try not think of the worst...

We are all here for you, you post whatever you want whenever you want, we have all been there before and we will support you no matter what....

All my love and support.... xoxoxox

[Tegam]

Hi everyone, sorry but not feeling up to persies. Still bleeding heavily and have had a number of clots now (sorry if TMI). Dr was able to see a clot on my scan earlier this week (away from where baby is) so it is possible i suppose that that is what is passing now but i think it's far more likely that i have miscarried. I won't know for sure until i see my OB on Wed. I don't see any point in going earlier. I'm hoping that if i give it a bit more time it will be over one way or the other; either the m/c will be complete and i can move on or the bleeding will stop and baby will be fine. I just can't bear this 'in between' of feeling doomed but baby still being there (if it's all just going to finish anyway, like last time). So i'm hoping that if i wait til Wed it will have reached some sort of resolution.

I feel like i don't want to post too much and bring everyone down so i'll let you know how it goes on Wednesday but maybe just lurk until then.

I understand that you would like it to be over one way or the other on wednesday. I think that this in the middle bit must be the hardest time! Please please please dont not post, you arent bringing us all down. Isnt this exactly what this thread is for?
Huge hugs and Hoping for good news on wednesday!