Tegam!! Lovely to see your name in here after all that you went through at the beginning of the year - hugs to you!

Thanks for remembering me Alice, yes it was a horrible start to the year but maybe a happy ending! Hi again!.


Hi ladies!!

Tegam - we didn't really tell people officially until 16 weeks. We had told MIL & FIL at about 9weeks as they had come to help us with some heavy work - which of course I didn't do, so we told them why, but also that we didn't really want to tell people yet, which they were quite understanding.
I was vommiting quite a bit at work, so I think some people may have guessed, but I didn't tell them until about 16 weeks. And only then becasue I was showing!
I didn't officially tell my boss until about two weeks ago, though I had unofficially told her at 16 weeks because other people knew.
It's hard, because on one hand you do want to tell - even if only for the support should something go wrong, but on the other hand, I didn't want to tell, because I didn't want to talk about it incase I jinxed it.
It took me a while to get my head around that I was pg.
Then I got that I was pg, but couldn't quite get that there was a baby in there, IYKWIM (I know, sounds silly).
Then it was there is a baby in there, but that doesn't mean one will come out.....
It's really only now, this last couple of weeks, probably the last week or two, that I really feel like yes there is a baby in there, and yes there is a happy end to come! And now, I have an awful lot of nesting to catch up on!
I just wanted to send hugs - to all of you - and say yes it is hard to feel excited in the beginning. But I don't feel guilty for not being excited, just disappointed that there is a lot of happiness that I missed out on that I needn't have.
I could not have said that all better myself, that is exactly how i feel. Thank you for taking the time to share!

Dory: no my partner told me that while he was yelling at me he is very uncompationate he does not understand that i am really tired right now and can't keep up with cleaning up after him and when his kids come to see him every three weeks he has been calling lazy.

My Dr is the one that has said that emotional stress will not cause a m/c that its the physcial stress is what i have to worry about due to me having a heart problem i have to worry about my heart rate getting to high or my blood suger getting to high. This baby is what i am worry about not my partner right now if i have to do this alone i will. His kids are bad last time i was pg and they found out his daughter who is 10 and wieghs 109 lbs jump on my lap so i have to worry about them. But enough of me rambling

good luck to everyone who has a scan coming up or a dr appt.
to everyone else you all are in my thoughts and prayers
Sounds like you dont have a lot of support. Hugs honey and remember you can only do your best!


AFM! 12 weeks today... 3 sleeps til scan!