Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April 2011

[WannabeMum]

Wow forshelby - it just gets worse! Except for the bringing home of the beautiful Axel They can do the hearing test at home, so get the MCH nurse to come and visit to do it - bugger going in to the hospital to get it done, you should never set foot there again! Good on you for making a complaint, I would be adding the withholding of information to that complaint too! What a croc. Big for you you strong woman! (Your Mum sounds pretty useless too, definitely make your focus your gorgeous three-person family, DP sounds awesome)

I can't respond to everything else, my brain is just full of info. I've been MIA a bit in here, so many people to try to keep a track of! As someone said up there somewhere - is there a list of EDDs and baby birth days? Would be good to get a picture. Is it weird for me to still be thinking that if I hadn't lost our angel I'd be 15 weeks further along now? I'm a couple of months behind all my friends atm but if I was still pregnant with angel I'd be in the middle. I know it's weird, and I know there was something wrong with angel, that's why s/he couldn't stay, and I know I'd be missing out on this gorgeous bundle if I hadn't lost angel, but I can't shake the thought every time I think about how far I am along. Like I'd be 23 weeks by now... It's silly isn't it. I'm also still paranoid about this baby and have just found out DH is being sent to Germany for work around the dates of our 12 week scan. I managed to reschedule it, then found out he's flying out the day of the scan - scan 12pm, flight 3:30... We MIGHT be able to get him there at 1:30... Hopefully we can ask the airline to make an exception and let him check in 2 hours before... Big hopefully. I know he can watch the DVD, but in case it's bad news... I would want to have someone there, but not one of my pregnant friends (which is... umm... all of them). Gosh I'm a weird person sometimes!

Thanks for letting me rant! I hope everything is going well! to all and big baby cuddles to all those with bubs they can hold in their arms out there!

[kellbell]

Forshelby - its just gets worse. Cant believe what they have done to you and your baby. I wouldn't let them near axel with a 10 foot pole
So your mum went home. thank goodness sounds like she was no help at all!!!!

Wannable mum i understand the feeling our baby would have been born in January if it stayed. is a strange feeling to have as i love this baby and hes healthy but i could have a three month old baby in my arms

Well bubs wasnt moving this morning so went and got checked. Bubs was fine thankgod not in labour though so a bit disappointing. all pre labour pains have done nothing!!!
Anyway they tell me as i have gest diabetes he has to go to the nursery for at least 24 hours . apparently its policy or some rubbish i kept ella with me with worse diabetes than this and she never left my side. I should have gone back to where i had ella. anyway i cried all day i hate my body it always seems to let me down either i cant keep them growing for long or i get stupid gest diabetes. I dont want them to take him away. I feel like they are going to yank him away as soon as he is born and i cant protect him while they shove who knows what in him
now id rather stay preg least hes with me then
sorry for the rant!

[ferrals5]

Hey ladies,

I have moved house but have no internet until next week so just have to be quick i am on my son's mobile internet thing.

I just wanted to say to reet and kellbell and T-Hopes i am thinking of you and hope i dont miss anything and will be back soon.

Hey Dory and Tegam hope all is well i havent had time to catch up on where everyone is up to but will soon.

Ella is going great will update when i can.

[damprye]

I'm a little concerned. TMI ahead... I have been getting a constant wet patch on my undies all day. It looks like I am constantly peeing myself and smells weird, almost sweet. Is there anything it could be that isn't my waters? Just freaking out a lil here.

[Khaleesi]

Kell it doesn't seem very fair.

Forshelby I can't believe how much drama they are causing you. I hope things start to improve for you now.

Damprye i've got no advice but i hope you called the hospital & got some answers and everything is ok. Thinking of you.

Ferrals good to hear Ella is doing well

AFM
Nothing new or exciting happening here but i did want to thank everyone for the support

[pash]

Hi Ladies, I've not read any of your posts, I'm sorry. But I just got a +ve and wanted to drop by & say hi & I hope to hang out in here for a full 8 more months. I've not had a great run, but the result of my last pregnancy is happily snoring away in the other room, so I've got all I need. Any more will be a very very welcome bonus. And on a side thing, I am about to go travelling for 6 months (with hubby & toddler & with parents/in-laws every so often). Not sure how that will work out with high risk pg etc, but time will tell I guess.

I'm going to go back and read up now.
xx

[angelfish]

Hey everyone sorry i have been MIA but Honor is not doing well but i am trying to get on everyday and keep an eye on all of you.

[Melster]

hey

pash.....hey and welcome....happy healthy nine months to you

cheshire...hope ur doing ok

damprye....i get that a bit...think its just extra stuff......think they say if it smells horrible to see whether its an infection or fluid.....but mines been like urs and everythings fine...if youre worried they can check but testing the patch...u just were a pad into the hospital

hey ferrals...hope u and little ella are doing good

kellbell....dont be too angry at yourself...you can help it....sometimes bodies just do things we dont like....im sorry about the hospital....hopefully if he is ok they wont keep him that whole time

wannabemum........well hopefully dh can make it for the scan. Ill pray he can and have no dramas catching his flight

atm.....just at hospital. Think dads being let out tomorrow and starting his radiation next week

[T-hopes]

Ohh no girls! HELP! TMI warning! I think i have a hemorroid!!!! Its horrbile! I just noticed it when i was having a shower!! I got DH (bless him) to have a peek and he said it looks like a tonsil!!! OMG!!! EIIIIIK!!! It doesnt really hurt but what the heck do i do with it!!!??

Oh and mental note to self - I will never google hemorroids and click images ever ever again! *Dry reaches* Oh dear lord what was i thinking... i need to lay down

[Tegam]

T-hope.....you have made my day now i am struggling to not go an google them! Poor DH you really shouldnt have made him do that!

Ok on a serious note... My first MW told me that you can just 'pop' it back in.....and it worked

enough said!



Melster: Hope your dad is comfortable at home!

Angelfish whats up?

Pash: Welcome on the BFP, i look forward toi getting to know you more!

damprye: totally normal hun, many women need to wear panty liners whilst pregnant!

chershire & wannabemum: Hello!

ferrals: Ella is getting so old too quick hey!

Kellbell: I HATE pre labour!!! Does my head in!

Forshelby: bloody hell! I have read your birth story and the next one! Far out id be mental too!

Dory: My sweet Dory, hows hannah bear??

Who have i missed?? Sorry!

AFM: Hello people, ahhh that three month haze has risen and im feeling great! Love my little girl She is own princess and well loved by everyone! And i cracked the 10kgs lost woohoo! pity i still have 13 to go naughty me!

[damprye]

Thanks everyone. It has stopped now and bub started kicking again so likely just a small hole that sealed itself, at least that's what my OB believes so all good

T-hopes, hemorroids happen, after you have bub it should get smaller and sometimes become barely noticable, but if you are worried or really just don't want it there, you can request to have it removed. I still have one from DS and my Great Grandmother (now 89) still has hers from her 4 kids.
Also, you're right, please everyone don't be tempted to google the pics *shudders*

[Mildez]

T-Hopes that sounds not so pleasant but atleast its not giving you grief. I hope it stays that way. I had the veins but on my vajaja instead. Not nice.

damprye are you ok? Did you get checked out? Usually you can't feel the cervix after the first trimester as its so high and posterior. If you have had a baby before then the cervix is almost always open a fraction although the still say its closed you can usually admit a finger. Definately don't go feeling down there at the moment.

Dory woohoo on becoming a moderator. Your going to make the best Mod.

Well sorry for lack of persies. We have had a terrible week with concerns over J's health but things have improved the last 2days. Thats why I have been of in my own fairy land. I'm to tired to go into any detail and today we had a very near miss in the car. My back wheel came off when I was doing 100kms an hour. Fortunately no one was hurt and my beautiful big beast was awesome. It didn't swerve around the road or anything. She is a little worse for wear but now. Poor elderly couple behind me where just awesome but it scared the shiat out of them more then me. Poor DH has been beside himself with guilt (we recently received a factory recall on the car due to flying of wheels that he forgot about) not what we need for the bank balance but we are completely grateful we are unscratched and obviously learnt a valuable lesson. I had all 3 kidlets in the car with me.

Welcome Pash. Sending you a load of sticky vibes.

Angelfish I hope things with little Honor improve. I'm not sure what is happening your way but will add you to my prayers that things improve. So aweful when our bubbies aren't going as well as they should be.

Be back when I can
xxx

[Tegam]

Mildez......geeee scary bears!

[ferrals5]

T-Hopes-lol you poor thing some women get them when pregnant just keep it clean and dry and try not to strain to much in the loo it will make it worse i have managed 4 kids with not one but my mum had them and still gets them from working long hours on her feet and straining to much.

Tegam- I know 4 weeks today the little princess it feels like i have had her for longer but i am loving every minute with her well except at 4am when she is restless.
And i still have 4 kilos to go and feel frumpy and fat.

Forshelby-God you had a rough time i also had some pretty awful dramas with my c section with my wound bleeding throught the blankets twice and the surgeons worried about internal bleeding i was put on an oxytocin drip hours after major surgery with no pain relief at all YES THEY STUFFED UP and i had absolutely no pain relief the 1st night with a oxytocin drip going to bring on contractions for my uterus to stop bleeding i can tell you i have never felt such pain in all my life the doctors and nurses said they have never seem a women suffer so much and last all night i was told i am a very strong women but i just cried and said well i didnt have a choice what could i do i was stuck in bed with a cathiter and leg balloon things and in excruciating pain how could i do anything that is something i will never forget and never want to relive again.

Mildez-Sh#t glad your all ok.

[Reet]

Oh T-Hopes! U poor thing! I HAD to google pictures after u said that! Haha.. ur poor dh! I put mine thru something similar about 10 months ago... i had an absess/boil thing RIGHT next to my bottom opening He is the one that ended up bursting it for me... wld not have been a good look! Me bent over with blood/pus pouring out! So gross!! I have heard u can just pop them back in... maybe go to the dr and get them too??! I think i wld have too! Good luck!!

Mildez- Sorry to hear ur dd hasnt been too good. How are u going b/fing now?? Still engorged?? Oh and how scary about ur wheel falling off! So glad that u were all ok.

Damprye- Glad that everything has settled down. Hopefully it was just an excess of cervical mucus. I have to wear a panty liner everyday or my knickers are drenched! Its just lovely! haha

Tegam- So good to hear ur feeling great! When i feel like im at the end of my tether with this baby i will remember that after 3 months i will be on top of the world again!

Melster- Oh im glad ur dad will be out of hospital next week. I hope the radiation doesnt knock him around too much.

Angelfish- Sorry to hear Honor isnt too well. I really hope things improve soon.

Pash- Hi and welcome! The next 9 months will go so quickly for u, especially since ur going travelling for 6 of them!

Hi Cheshire and Possum!

Hi ferrals! Missing u in here! And yeah Ella is getting old so very quickly! I cant believe how fast time is going! Hope she is doing well

Kell- How frustrating that ur little boy wont be able to stary with u for the first 24 hrs! Hopefully once he comes out they realise that he is better off with u and end up not taking him. I really hope this prelabour stuff turns into the real thing for u soon!

Wannabemum- How frustrating with ur scan time! What bad timing! I really hope dh can be there for it.

Forshelby- Each time i hear another story about ur treatment it annoys me so much! How cld they stuff SO MUCH stuff up! Its absolutely disgraceful! Has a hearing test been organised now?? Are u just writing a big letter of complaint and sending it?? Its going to be the longest letter ever! How annoying that u even have to spend so much of ur 'mummy time' writing one! Grrrrr. Ur experiences from the start with that hospital were terrible, pity u didnt know just how terrible it was going to get! Atleast now u will be able to tell everyone else to stay away from there!
So good to hear that ur dp is being so good, what an absolute darling!

I cant go back any further on this page so i cant see any of the older posts, a big hello to anyone i have missed tho!

AFM- Been busy busy busy painting the babies room! FINALLY decided what colours to paint it last week. Dh left to go away for work on Monday so its just been me with my big respirator mask on slaving away! He gets back on sunday just for the night so im going to have the room ready so he can put the cot up. Then i will be feeling a lot more organised! Next week i will organise my hospital bag and do a bit more shopping, still need to buy a few bits and pieces.

Spent today cleaning every inch of our living room- i moved the couches, cleaned the windows, up and down the ladder scrubbing the walls. Was feeling great til late this arvo when i was about to go outside and do some gardening and realised my feet were absolutely killing me! I cld barely walk! Ive never had sore feet, its definitely my body telling me to slow down! I wish dh was here to give them a rub for me, dammit!

At my last ob. appointment he said baby was starting to engage but wasnt fully yet so he said chances of going into labour over the weekend are slim but if im not at next wed's appointment then he knows why! I think he was just trying to get my hopes up... I am thinking i still have another 3 weeks to go. Im sure i wld be feeling different if baby was coming in the next week. I havent had any niggles and no pressure down there whatsoever. Still feeling very very normal, like ive said before if i didnt have a moving tummy i wldnt believe i was pg, oh except for my sore feet today!
I got a bit worried at appointment, my ob. has a little u/s machine so we check out bubs each week, at all the other appointments baby has measured spot on but this time it was measuring exactly the same as last week! Which was 36.5 weeks. I asked him about 3 times if things really were alright and baby was healthy, he assured me that everything is definitely fine but it just means baby will be closer to 7 pounds, which i think i wld prefer anyway! Not that i think it wld really make a difference when ur pushing something that size out anyway tho!
I only put on 200grams between appointments too which was a bit of a worry until i found out that baby hadnt grown so there really wasnt any reason for me to have grown! Thats 9kgs all up, am thinking i will only hit the 10kg mark, hopefully that means once i start b/f baby sucks the extra fat off my thighs i had and i can come out skinnier then before i fell pg!

Anyway better go, im meant to be going to pick up my sister and taking her to town in the next hour... great! What else is a pg lady good for?!

Nite nite xxx

[Reet]

Its so stupid of me.. but whenever i see my ticker i find myself thinking god ive got so long to go.. even tho it was only a couple of months ago that i wld get so excited when i wld see anyones tickers past the 36 week mark cos i knew they wld be holding there babies so soon!
I honestly think im in denial, i really dont believe that we will be having a baby in the next few weeks. I feel like im only making myself set the babies room up cos its what i 'shld' be doing.. not because there is going to be a baby that needs a bed.

Yes i am stupid

[pash]

Reet Isn't it weird how time flies and yet seems to stand so painfully still? But it really isn't long till you'll be holding your bubba! xx

Ferrals & Forshelby gosh! I can't believe that can even happen! And no pain relief! I'm annoyed for you.

Mildez Phew close call! Sounds like a movie with wheels flying off, any cows past the windscreen? Glad you & kids & elerly couple are all ok.

Dampyre Glad it was nothing to worry about. Our bodies are amazing when they heal themselves x

Tegam Lost 10kg in 3months. I am in awe. How did you do it? I still have a gut 16months on.

THopes PMSL Oh and it took a good bit of restraint to not google as well.

Melster Thanks for the welcome. Don't know what's going on with you, but just wanted to send you a hug & some positive vibes for you and your dad. x

Angelfish Also, I don't know what's been going on, but hope things pick up for Honor xx

AFM I now have the scan booked for the morning of my birthday and am silently bricking it.

With DD, I had a MASSIVE bleed the day before my birthday and thought it was all over. Had a scan scheduled 2 days later and it almost didn't happen cos I told the midwife that I had m/c-ed and she told me there was no point in a scan and to just go down to A&E. But thanks to DH, I had the scan and there was my DD bouncing away, so it was a happy ending. Am really really hoping for a heartbeat. But I've also had a pg where there was a heartbeat at 6wks, then 8wks, then none at 10wks, so I know it doesn't mean I can completely relax if it goes well.

I don't know why I am so much more relaxed about it all, but then still scared ****less inside.

PS DD is actually 1 year and 4 months, not sure how to fix my ticker...

[MsKara]

Its so stupid of me.. but whenever i see my ticker i find myself thinking god ive got so long to go.. even tho it was only a couple of months ago that i wld get so excited when i wld see anyones tickers past the 36 week mark cos i knew they wld be holding there babies so soon!
I honestly think im in denial, i really dont believe that we will be having a baby in the next few weeks. I feel like im only making myself set the babies room up cos its what i 'shld' be doing.. not because there is going to be a baby that needs a bed.

Yes i am stupid

Reet, I know I haven't been here for ages but I just saw your comment and had to reply. Hugs chica! I had that exact same feeling right up until they showed me my bub. I prepared everything because I should do it, but I didn't believe we would have a take home baby even while I was in labour. TBH, once it was over and he was in my room, I was pretty shocked and completely paranoid for the next few nights that he would die. I even slept with my glasses and the light on lol. What I'm trying to say is - you will be fine, bubs will be fine and you will have him to hug in a few weeks