Ok Forshelby: Firstly you are doing a great job! Mothering in the hardest job you will ever do and sadly you started off in such a negative way. I really do wish you would talk to someone but if you cant then make sure you keep up on here!!
Practical suggestions:
Define day and night - somehow, i like to pick a time i shower and i mean a 1/2hr shower atleast. If DP is hom at 7pm each night then 7 and 7. if DP is at work in the morning do the best you can to fix axel before 7 and then leave him in his cot where he is safe while you shower. this halves the days so gives you the elusion that you only have to survive until 7am and night shift will be over.
Go for walks, you think you dont have the energy but walking with a screaming baby in a pram outside is so much nicer than in your arms inside.
buy or borrow a hub a bub. not any other sort of carrier it has to be a hug a bub!
make sure you eat, if you arent getting energy from sleep you need it from food
drink heaps of water
play the radio
when you want to shout 'shut up" yell i am the adult here, but if you cant and 'shut up' comes out then when things have calmed down, remind yourself of all the times in the day you said something loving not the few you didnt!
be kinder to yourself
Remember the first 6 weeks is hard, then it gets better i promise! Then 3 months I promise!
Bookmarks