Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

[T-hopes]

Oh Ferrals - what a f#cked up situation! Not what you guys need at all and especially right b4 Christmas!! Good idea to have a few days off! Wish i had some good advice for you but i cant even begin to imagine! Gosh i hope 2011 is a better yr for you guys! xx

[Melster]

Ferrals..we were in a simlar situation...well legal stuff anyways and dr bills etc....boy i know exactly how you must feel right now. Its so hard when you have no control over a situation and things are going pear shape and theres not much you can do about it....wish there was something i could say to make you feel better...you need to just concentrate on you're bub and pray and HOPE things will work out....we ended up going for hardship as well and hubby got it, so hopefully you will too and hopefully the courts will work out that this guy is lying and you're partner was defending him self...hopefully you're lawyer is really good...!!!!!

Worst case senerio maybe you could borrow/rent/buy a second hand car seat and clean it...just until you can afford you're own...

Nah you cant risk the baby...you need to look after yourself and just pray things will work out in the end

ATM...were breaking up today and have a lunch at work...so i will let uno how my scan goes tomorrow..its in the arvo...............im

[forshelby]

Kit - It was an epic battle of wills..... soooooo glad I won't be doing that again for a while.

T-hopes - I said the same thing this morning. I'm free!!!! No babysitting rotten kids today!

Ferrals - Awww hun it's been so hard for you lately. I think a few days off are just what you need right now. I hope this whole thing is over quickly and I hope even more that your DH wins the case!

Melster - Best of luck for tomorrow's scan!

AFM - Nothing exciting to report here, enjoying a peaceful day on my own and loving it. I had a hospital appointment this morning and was lucky to actually be seen on time, so then went to try and get my sister's xmas present. Of course the salesman was rude, and ignored me for a good 10 minutes. There was nobody else in the store and I tried to get his attention a couple of times. Then as I turned to walk out of the store he went to greet me and I just said TOO LATE, BUDDY and walked out. LOL, bit of pg rage there, I think. So, I'm still no closer to finishing the shopping.... but whatever. Today is my day and I desperately need to rest and recover after my extreme babysitting challenge.

[Tegam]

AFM - 15wks today! Hooray Bought my first pair of Maternity Jeans on Sunday!! They are ace!! I got 2 pairs for $78 at Jeanswest - i had no idea they even sold them there until some girls in my bellybuddies were talking about them! And they are cool as! Skinny leg and straight leg! Im rockin em with my little belly

YAY for 15weeks and double yay for the maternity jeans!

ATM.......WELL BIG MOUTH certaintly open her big mouth.....YIPEE tho for getting my contract renewed for six months...(been here 10 years) and he said if i wanted to talk about anything...told him what was going on and he was really good...said at the end of my contract he would fight his hardest so they would keep me...guess ill just have to wait and see...so now two bosses know and two work people..so it will be all around the office soon....lets hope that my scan on Thur is ok...if not at least i have two weeks off

YAY for the contract! Thats great news, now a fantastic scan tomorrow and you can have the best xmas ever!

Might I just add.......................................

SERENITY NOW!!!!!

I made it. I did it! I did it without losing my sanity.

Well done!

Ladies,
I am having a mental breakdown, yesterday DH got all the court paperwork and in it is a quote for $7500 for the drunk d#ckhead two front teeth that suposedly will need root canal therapy and capping if the pulp of the teeth die WTF!!!!! if DH loses the case OMG! this is just getting worse i broke down and burst into tears at work last night and txt DH and went off HOW COULD YOU GET US INTO THIS SITUATION! i know he didnt mean it and the drunk assulted him first and DH was just protecting himself but it has all backfired.
DH has to apply for hardship to access his super to help pay for the lawyer and help us move house and pay bills.
If he doesnt get it we are f#cked we now cant even afford to pay for a car seat if i were not pregnant i could work more but i just cant risk it with this placenta.

Sorry to rant i am going to have a few days off work and use some sick leave.

Holy cow, i can understand your rant to DH, as i am sure he can too. You are being very good about all of this and you are allowed a moment every now and then! Hope that you can access that super, i didnt even know you can do that! Im sure we can come up with a baby sit for you if need be! Calm calm calm ferrals, you and the baby are much too important for this $hit at the moment!



AFM: New car is great, thank you ladies! Its huge and i havent given it a go parking but driving was nice. We have gone from petrol to desel so just had to get my head around all that! Really dont have the brain power at the moment and the kids are so excited that are yelling out about a million things at once. DH can drive for the minute
Car seat is in but i dont think baby is ever going to come. How unfair that my 4th is planning on being the one i cook the longest, when my body is at its worse. But i am glad the baby is happy in there, hopefully putting on some much needed weight.
Oh who asked? Its a Hyundai I-MAX.

Sorry for my rant, just sore and over it today!

[T-hopes]

Oh im so bored.... 2nd last day of work and Im and pulling my hair out with boredom!!

Im the only person in the entire complex seriously! The phone has rang twice! Why the heck do i need to be here!?!?! Get me outta here.... 2.5hrs to go!! Im going nuts ppl!!!! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! I have so much to do b4 Christmas and im a prisoner to this joint! Grrrr!

[Tegam]

Thopes!! I can hear the echo from here!

[T-hopes]

hahahha! I have googled everything possible, read the paper, done my work (most importantly ) read my mags, called my mum, called DH.... oh im going insane ................... maybe i could have a little nap.......... 2hr 12mins to go... tick tock tick tick

[Tegam]

Like how you have googled, read the paper and THEN mention your work!

[T-hopes]

Of course!! Priorities Tegam!!

[Tegam]

did you make it or die of bordem?

[kellbell]

ha ha T - hopes hope you didnt die of boredom

We seem extra busy hospitals should shut for a week i reckon at least the one i work at
Everyone dumps grannie for xmas and new years its a bit sad really !

12 weeks left of work YAH

I cant wait for xmas morning so my Ella can unwrap her presents so exciting

[T-hopes]

I survived ladies! Yahoo! Just gotta get thru 3hrs tomoz and im done till the 10th Jan! Whhooooo!

xx

[kellbell]

woo hoo sounds great!

[possum magic]

Hello Ladies,

I know a bunch of you from other threads... or the last time i was here
Praying i get to stay much much longer this time... till full term actually!

Got a BFP yesterday. My hands were shaking so badly it took me four goes to get the POAS packet open! So scared to see a BFP and and having another bad experience. But now i've had a day to think about it i'm feeling more excited (still scared but excited too. Also don't really believe it).

I'm 4.5wks pg. Already seen my OB because he told me to come in as soon as I got another BFP this time so that we can try medication to make bubba stick this time. I was already on aspirin while TTC. Now I'm on Clexane. Did my first injection tonight...GULP! I sat there for 5 mins feeling a bit dizzy with the needle pointed at my belly and thinking OMG I can't do this! But i did! So proud of myself. Only like 32 more weeks of daily needles to go!!!

Sorry, i'm babbling i know. it's all a bit overwhelming.
Belly rubs to all,

possum magic

[Reet]

Hi Girls sorry i havent been around lately. Just been feeling a bit quiet. Slowly getting used to the idea of not having our little girl around... im at the stage where i cant think about her tho or look at photos cos i will still just start crying.. i havent cried since we picked up her ashes on monday and i had to read her cremation certificate.. i also had a good old sniff of her collar.. it still smelt like her but yes i think this is my best coping mechanism for now.. blocking it all out.
Its weird.. i always thought going thru my m/c wld be the hardest thing i have ever been thru, but this definitely is by far.. is that wrong??
So many ppl have been saying that i wld be finding this loss extra hard because im pg and hormonal but why had i been feeling great up until that awful afternoon?! Maybe being hormonal multiplies what ur feeling... who knows... i just know i miss my little girl so much!!

Anyway other then all that i am doing really good! Except for the fact that i am getting BH's like every 15 mins.. its starting to worry me a bit.. even though everyone has said its normal.. including the midwife at hospital appointment yesterday, i just dont think it shld be happening this frequently! I can just be sitting here doing nothing and im still getting them all the time. Baby is always moving tho and ultrasound i had the other day was perfect so i guess everything is ok. Just as long as this isnt a sign that im going to go into labour prematurely!

While i remember heres my facebook link so u can check out a couple of my u/s pics!!
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?ai...2&id=622993252
I cant wait to add my next tummy shots.. im sure my tummy has doubled since the 20 week pics. People are actually noticing that im pregnant now.. finally im not just feeling like i have a pot belly! Altho im still getting ppl going 'what?! ur 5 and a half months pregnant.. gosh ur small!' But like u have all said u just cant win.. ur always going to be too big or too small..
I cant fit into any of my old pants anymore which is very exciting.. one of dhs cousins gave me lots of maternity pants last pg so i busted them out a couple nites ago.. i love em! So comfy!

Anyway enough about me! Onto some persies!

T-hopes- Woohoo for 15 weeks!!! When will u be going for ur morph scan? Closer to 18 weeks or will u try and hold out til the 20 wk mark?? Yay for ur upcoming holidays!

Ferrals- Oh my god thats terrible.. can things get any harder?! I really hope u both get the good luck u deserve. A few days off work will definitely be good for u, enjoy ur time off. Is ur bubba still a little disco queen and moving around heaps??

Forshelby- Grrrr at the annoying kids! well kid i shld say! How frustrating! Theres no more babysitting plans for the near future i hope?! Can u tell ur friend what a little mongrel her son is being?? I think i wld have to make little comments here and there about his behaviour! Hey and what did u need to get more bt's for?? Anything i will have to get as well?? I think this is the longest i havent had to do one for a couple years.. im starting to miss it! haha.

Melster- Oh i cant wait til u have ur scan tomoro and see that everything is perfect! Will u be getting the nuchal trans. at 12 weeks as well or will this be it til the morph scan?

Tegam- Woohoo for the new car!!! I honestly cant believe ur baby is taking so long to come out!! Have u noticed ur tummy getting bigger over the last month?? Are u feeling huge or still quite small?

Kell- That is so sad and awful that oldies are getting dumped over xmas very lucky that theres caring ppl like urself out there to help them thru
Christmas morning wld be very exciting when u have a child! I cant wait til next xmas.. this year is going to be quite dull i think for us!

Kit- OMG watch that ticker go!!! Wowee!

I cant go back any further ladies so im so sorry if i have missed u! Hello to everyone tho!!!

xxx

[Reet]

oh Possum CONGRATULATIONS!!!! WOOHOO!! Am so happy for u!!!

[dory]

Tegam - woot woot - NEW CAR.... and 37 weeks! After all that fuss about coming early.... stay snug little bubba... just for a week, so mumma can have a preggy christmas! I am loving the sound of the new car. Most importantly - what colour?

Melster - GL tomorrow with your scan.

Reet - grief is hard. Previous grief with your m/c and your current preg hormones don't make it any easier. It's not wrong to grieve your precious Nala. She was your darling little fur kid and you love her. Grieve as you need to. Nala deserves it. I ALWAYS have grieved my pets......that is so sweet that you had her cremated. Our cat who died when we were overseas was buried in our yard by my aunt and she made a little memorial garden. So sweet of her to do that. Maybe you can also do a memorial for your Nala? ( hope I have spelt her name correctly). Oh and I LOVE the u/s pics. YAY little one.

Kit - grrr little Tiger is going so well!

Ferrals - I know it's hard to see the sunshine when all you see is the gloomy clouds - but you are an amazing mother and woman and you will make it through. S'ok to be angry and frustrated and scared.... legal stuff is hard because it's confusing and I think it feels like you are just being tumbled around. I reckon you can hire a capsule - the ambo's do it for 6 months. Might not be what you'd hoped for, but at least bubs will be safe.

POSSUMS - WELCOME sweet girl and CONGRATULATIONS on your BFP..... how many tests have you done now? And well done on that first injection... it must be so hard ... but worth it.... clexane and asprin - do you have factor v leiden or another clotting disorder? I thought you mentioned something about progesterone pressaries? I am glad your obs saw you quickly... it bodes well for the level of care you are going to get from them. YAY for being pregnant..... any m/s yet? Sore bb? I know I could just read your blog, but I want you to be able to tell us all here!

Kell - enjoy the break from work....

T Hopes - glad you survived the boredom...... maybe you can be a crazy funster tomorrow and put sticky tape over the mouthpiece of a colleagues phone( so they can't be heard when they are speaking) or bubble wrap on the floor under their chair ( so when they roll the chair it pops and gives them a fright).....

Forshelby - enjoy the pregnancy rage... but I would call it just being assertive. In these tough economic times, the sales assistant should realise one very basic point - you are choosing to spend your hard earned money in their store, so they should treat you with respect or at least be courteous. I honestly think that there are too many people, shop assistants included who are just so damn inconsiderate of pregnant women and mothers with newborns... and I presume it's the same once the kiddies are toddlers. So get practising, it doesn't get any better. Although having said that, a guy at Bunnings really went out of his way to help me the other day ( I was trying to buy a 3 piece outdoor setting with HB in the sling... a bit too adventurous). I must put in a good word for him.

[dory]

Audax - how true - too precious by far. With that beautiful thought I am off to bed.