I have been tempted a number of times to find out this time. The first time I didn't and I know if I really wanted to know I'd just ask my obs as he has done an ultrasound and knows etc. BUT - we both decided that there are really very few TRUE suprises in life and this is definatly one of them. The only reason i was tempted was because we have a boys name and couldn't decide on a girls name, we were miles apart there. So at 20 weeks we decided that if that was the only reason we needed to know then we didn't really need to because if this baby is a girl then we still had 20 weeks to find a name and even then we would never be truly stuck - in other words we would find a name we both loved eventually. We have decided on a first name and have a few ideas for a middle name if it's a girl so it's all worked out . I also thought I have nutral colour clothing for the first few weeks and then if I need boys clothing I can go out and get a few things and if the baby is a girl I won't need to. It is amazing how many friends ask if we know what we are having and when I say no they smile and say 'yes you do'. I have no idea why. I just don't need to know yet - I can't wait until our bundle arrives and I know I won't be disappointed either way!