Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts and helping me make this decision

I've been thinking a lot about why I'm not keen on finding out the sex. I think it's because if i find out now that it's another boy i will be a teeny tiny be disapointed - not hugely devestated in that i'd need time to "get over it" or anything. But I also know, from my birth experience last time that once I'm holding my little baby, I won't care less what gender it is. So if i find out at that time, i know i won't feel any disapointment.

misty, I see your point about DH may not feel that bond, and in fact i'm sure he doesn't as he can't feel baby moving yet at all, despite all the times with his hand on my belly waiting for something to happen. And if he really really wants to know then i'll respect that, so long as he doesn't tell ANYONE. LOL i know that won't happen!

Renstar, no it's not 100% accurate. It all depends on the way the baby is lying, the experience of the sonographer, quality of the machine etc etc. And in fact i know of 2 cases - one where they were told boy and ended up getting a girl, and another vice versa. But i imagine that if they say boy that is more likely to be correct because you have to assume they've seen the penis.

In terms of the surprise factor, i've always argued that its a surprise whether we know now or at the birth, it's just different times.

It looks like DH won't be able to make it to the scan this time anyway, so i guess it all depends on me! It doesn't bother me that he won't be there. It would've done last time, but i'm more relaxed this time around, and i figure if he really wanted to be there he'd make the appt (which is also what i think about if he really wanted to know B or G). I could get the sonographer to write it down and put it in the envelope, but i can't imagine having it sitting there and not peeking!! If it's not written down, i just have to be strong during the scan, but if it's written down and then DH knows I'll have to be really really strong for a long time... and i know i probably won't make it!