Ha - great suggestions!!! No you're right - i'll start to focus on some of that stuff. I would definately love a son at some stage - i loved having brothers and thought it was an important part of my development growing up with both sexes..just with these two being so close i would have loved 2 girls. But then again my bro and i were only 18 months apart and are still very close. I think i might just start mentally preparing myself that there's a strong chance that i am having a son (i'm too easily referring to bub as she) so then it's not a big shock. Thanks for the feedback - it has helped