This could sound really silly but do you think there are any ways of guarding yourself against gender disappointment? I say this because i'm preg with no 2. I have one perfect little daughter and a lot of people have commented on how we must be 'hoping' for a boy this time around. I'm almost ashamed to admit it - and kind of feel really selfish and shallow, especially since we came very close to losing Ella, so the sex definately shouldn't be a concern...just a healthy baby. But i would really love another girl - and so would my DH. Perhaps because we adore Ella so much and just don't know any differently???? Anyway - we are very keen to find out the sex and i'm wondering how to guard myself against disappointment if i am blessed with a son. Again - i'm not saying that i would love him any less..i'm sure you all understand that - but would just feel incredibly guilty for having those thoughts. Any suggestions?